Hi Moms & Dads,
I’ve been wondering how you all feel about the comments by au pairs on various posts, and whether you’d like me to take a more active role in managing the participation of au pairs in our conversations.
We have had some really useful comments from au pairs, where they have asked questions, offered helpful advice, offered helpful perspectives, and added to the conversation. And, we have also had a few comments that have been downright grumpy, defensive and/or critical. Once or twice I’ve blocked these comments, when the comments have been unkind or unfair. (Here is one comment that I did not ‘approve’ but did not delete, so you can get a sense of what you aren’t seeing.) But otherwise, I’ve let them through.
As I’ve laid out in the About , First Visit? page and the R U An Au Pair ? page, this blog is for host moms (and sometimes host dads). I think that au pairs have places to talk with each other, and LCCs have ways to talk with each other, and it’s really the host moms & dads who need a place to vent, ask questions, and share advice. So, this blog is really here to serve host moms and dads. As kind as au pairs can be, this is supposed to be a place for us host moms (and dads).
*** Let me be clear: I’m not interested in "banning" au pairs from the conversation. I think that overall the au pairs who have participated have been great. It’s more an issue of protecting and facilitating a conversation for parents . ***
There are a couple of options for how I could address the role that Au Pairs can play as commenters. I’ve set these up as a poll so you can tell me what you think. You can vote for more than one option since these actions are not mutually exclusive.
Are there other options we should consider?
I want to keep this blog a safe, useful, friendly, honest place to talk about ourselves, our families, our challenges and achievements, our relationships with our au pairs, and the positive difference we can make in each others lives. So, please share what you think…