No Host Parent wants to feel responsible for an au pair who’s unable to take care of him/herself.
We complain to each other bitterly
“If I’d wanted another ‘dependent’, I’d have had another kid!”
And, we resent the idea that there is another anything (much less an actual person whom we care about) that we now need to take care of. Most of us feel pretty tapped out already. That’s why we got an au pair in the first place, right?
A new host mom wrote to ask:
How much parenting do we need to do for our au pairs?
I can figure out that there are some specific things I need to care about (safe driving, not drinking underage), but is there a blanket statement about how we should understand our responsibilities?
What does it mean to be a host “parent” to an au pair?
What’s the right amount of ‘parenting’? How do you know when you’ve found it?
A smattering of earlier posts about ‘parenting’ our au pairs:
In Loco Parentis? Your Parental Responsibilities when your AP’s behavior challenges your values
Au Pairs and Online Romances: Your role as a Host Parent
Halloween Party Safety Concerns for my Au Pair
Can you help your Au Pair use her free time more wisely?