On New Year’s Eve, we can expect that our off-duty au pairs may want to be out all night celebrating. And for one night a year (especially, when everyone else seems go be out celebrating) you might not have a problem with your au pair being gone overnight, even if she has to be on-duty the following morning.
But, what about the other 364 nights of the year?
A host mom writes:
I am eager to hear how other host families handle an au pair who stays out overnight. My husband and I have opposing views on the subject.
Host Mom thinks: Out all night is okay
I think that my au pair is an adult ( sometimes :)) and can make her own decisions about staying out overnight but needs to be at work the next morning.
I just ask that she send me a text message and let me know where she is and that she will not be home.
Host Dad thinks: Maybe not a good idea
My husband thinks that she is living in our house and not on her own and expects that she sleep here and is not thrilled that she is staying at her boyfriend’s house. He thinks that if she is working the next morning she needs to sleep here.
What are your thoughts?
Let’s assume that you, the host parent, know where your au pair will be and have a way to get ahold of her, in case of some kind of emergency. And, let’s also assume that your au pair is scheduled to be on duty first thing in the morning so that you can work. With those two conditions, let’s take a poll:
We’ve had very sensible au pairs and have never had the situation where a sleepover left us without childcare, but: I think that if I knew who my au pair was probably with (either girl friend or boy friend), and I knew that she was with someone sensible, I’d be okay with it, under one condition– and that would be if she were back at our house an hour before it was time to go on duty. I’d need her to plan to be at our house an hour early so that I would not have to freak out about whether she’d be there in time for us to leave for work. She could use that time for breakfast, changing her clothes, whatever, but I’d need that cushion.
What about you?