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Let’s Celebrate!

by cv harquail March 8, 2010
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I was surprised to discover that AuPairMom has just published our 300th post! It’s hard to believe. But even more amazing? These 300 posts have generated 6, 151 comments from us. What a happy amount of wisdom going around. To celebrate, two things are in order… First, invite a host parent friend to come join […]

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Tax Info For Au Pairs

by cv harquail February 24, 2010
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HostDadinNJ sent me a PDF of information from the Au Pair Care Agency, which answers lots of questions AND has some great links to official & legal information. Sadly, I can’t figure out how to upload the pdf to the blog, since I’m missing the MSQL PHP or something.  However, in the meantime, if you […]

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Honest Truth, how many weeks are over 45 hrs? (Poll)

by cv harquail February 23, 2010
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The controversy continues! There’s now some concern over just how widespread is the practice of having your au pair work more than 45 hours a week. Let’s try to put some numbers in this — I’d love to get an empirical assessment of this practice… Problem is that an online poll will NOT give us […]

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Can an Au Pair be happy without driving privileges?

by cv harquail February 11, 2010
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[[This question popped up in a different comment thread, and I’ve pulled it out for its own page & conversation, seeing as how this is an issue for many of us. I’ll eventually re-post the comments already made, but here is a start:]] My husband and I are expecting our first au pair in May. […]

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Au Pairs and Your American Politics

by cv harquail February 11, 2010
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If you ever come to over to my house, our politics are pretty clear. Right there at the front door, you can wipe your feet on George Bush. Our George Bush doormat is an endless source of amusement for canvassers from Greenpeace, The Sierra Club, Amnesty International, and others. It seems like the only person […]

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Tell your AuPair stories to a Journalism Student

by cv harquail February 5, 2010

… who contacted me as part of her research. This NYU graduate journalism student is looking to speak with current and former au pairs, and families who have lived with au pairs (either currently or in the past), about their experiences for a series of pieces over the next couple of months. Email NannyStoriesNYC@gmail.com for […]

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Your Experiences in Withholding Pocket Money

by cv harquail January 25, 2010
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Okay parents– here’s a place to catch the different stories about whether or not you withheld pay from your au pair — for a super legitimate reason– and whether or not there was an Agency policy or response behind that. We’ve already had one mom mention that with the first agency she used, withholding was […]

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Haircolor and Au Pairs: What’s up with that?

by cv harquail January 16, 2010
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Last year I made a joke in one post about au pairs spending a lot of money on Garnier Nutrisse hair color, and nobody commented… I thought I was alone in the “What’s with all the hair coloring?” question. I have since discovered, for better or worse, that I am not the only host mom […]

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Helping Your Au Pair Extend, with Student Status: Advice Wanted

by cv harquail January 10, 2010
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Hi Au Pair Mom Readers! Love the site and am totally addicted. The advice is so helpful! I need advice on the subject of college education for my au pair. Our au pair has indicated an interest in attending university here in the U.S. instead of in her home country (Germany). It’s unclear whether she […]

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When your departing au pair sours your new au pair

by cv harquail January 5, 2010
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For many of us, a new au pair’s arrival is a chance to start fresh, with revised guidelines, new resolutions, and a new attitude. The easiest way to have a fresh start is to have a clean break between outgoing and incoming au pairs. So, even though there are many positive reasons for having your […]

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