Dear Au Pair Mom –
We have just extended with a great au pair. It was hard for us to find someone from my own home country so that my 2 children could be exposed to the the language and culture. We were lucky enough to have found someone who is responsible and caring. She gets along very well with my family and I would be happy to have her stay longer if only she could.
Since we had to work through friends and neighbors in my home country to find her to pre-match, we know that finding another au pair from this country could be difficult.
Our au pair suggested that we pre-match with her younger sister. I had never considered this idea before, and I really don’t know how I feel about this option.
- One concern is whether the au pair agency or government agencies would cast suspicion on a pre-match with my au pair’s sister. Would this make it more likely for her visa to be denied? That would cause chaos for me and my job if I do not have someone there to take over when my au pair goes back.
- Another concern is that I have no guarantee that her younger sister will be as caring and responsible as she is. My doubts are purely based on 1 or 2 stories she previously shared about her family and not from personal experience.
- Frankly, I am also concerned that if I try to do a pre-match with her sister and it doesn’t work out, it would be more difficult to get out of it then if I had just matched with someone else.
I don’t want to make any promises to my au pair or her sister at this point.
Other Au Pair Moms/Dads — what do you think? What would you do in my situation?
Thanks in advance for your insights. –HostMominNYC