Quick — what’s the worst thing your au pair could ever overhear?
You telling your Host Parent partner how much the Au Pair bothers you?
Some kind of grumpy food-related complaint you should be too adult to even have?
You announcing that you’ve tucked a speed tracker into the Au Pair car, so now you’ll have proof?
Or, how about … never mind.
There is really no way to introduce this TOTALLY CRINGE INDUCING topic.
Except to say, from a Host Parent’s perspective, this might be a nice problem to have :-)
Here’s the Au Pair’s email:
Dear Au Pair Mom —
First of all let me say that I love your blog. I’m an Au Pair and your posts and all the commenters’ advice have helped me see a lot of things from my Host Parents’ perspective.
My host parents have been wonderful so far and I love taking care of their baby.
I am their first Au Pair and this is their first baby (them being my first host family) so everything is pretty new to us!
About a month ago, the baby started sleeping in the baby’s own room as opposed to the parents’ bedroom. Ever since, I can hear my host parents having intercourse. Their bedroom is right above mine and the walls are thin so I can hear them pretty clearly. They’re really loud and it’s making it hard for me to sleep at night, not to mention awkward to face them in the mornings.
At first I noticed this only happened during date nights, when they would go out on dates and come home later on the weekend. So I planned to sleep over at a friend’s house when I knew that would happen.
Now they’re doing it during normal week days, albeit at least trying to keep it down. But it’s become a great source of stress for me.
I spoke to other host parents who don’t know my host parents and their advice was to avoid mentioning it to my host parents at any cost.
But now I don’t know what to do. I would really like some advice from other host parents on the matter.
I don’t want to mortify my poor host mom by bringing it up! But if I brought it up, how would you like to be approached and what possible solutions can you think of? And other au pairs, have you had this problem too?