I can’t believe that I’m over forty, married, and writing a blog post about how to find a good man.
Sure, I have some experience in this department– I actually found my self a very nice man (DHD) — but unfortunately I don’t have exactly the right experience to help out those of you who are:
Looking for a kind, caring, sensitive guy, between 18 and 25, who loves kids and who won’t break my heart by tracking mud through my family room.
Yes, that’s right, I don’t know how to help you find a good manny.
I know that some of you host parents would consider the right guy as an au pair, and that many of you actually prefer male au pairs to female au pairs (something about less drama??). But how do you actually find one of these?
Apparently, the problem of finding a good manny goes even deeper, since young men who are interested in becoming au pairs don’t know which agencies are really interested in placing them with host families.
Recently we got an email from a potential au pair candidate who wanted to know the best place to find host families who were looking for mannies. EC writes:
I am a 23 year old male who has been interested in au pairing for a while and am looking at trying to do so in the US. I have worked with children and young people in various jobs since I was 18. In particular I have extensive experience working with disabled children-around 1000 hours in that area alone. In spite of this, I have found it difficult to find agencies that are willing to take on male applicants. What are the best agencies to apply with if I want to find a lot of host parents who are seriously interested in hiring a male au pair?
And, given that some parents may be uncomfortable considering male au pair candidates, what kinds of things can I tell them in my application information that might allay any concerns?
According to informal sources, not all 12 of the US Au Pair agencies welcome male applicants. Some agencies, it seems, ‘decline’ to recruit and interview male candidates becuase they don’t think that host families in the US actually want male au pairs.
So the question is, what au pair agencies are responding to the interests of host parents who would like to consider male au pairs?
- Are any agencies reaching out to male applicants?
- Are any agencies helping male candidates present themselves in ways that help families get over any discomfort with the idea of a male child-care giver?
If you were EC, what au pair agency would your interview with?
Image: Bonus points to those host moms who recognize “Matt”, who rocks Friday Night Lights almost as much as Coach Taylor (squeal!).