You’ve found her/him, you’ve matched, you’ve sent follow up information, exchanged a few happy emails, and then all of a sudden…
… Your au pair goes quiet.
Time to panic?
Dear Au Pair Mom,
We are excited about our soon-to-arrive au pair. She seems great, but I am starting to worry.
I haven’t heard anything from her in several weeks, and she’s been slow to respond to my emails. She’s a native English speaker, so language isn’t the issue.
We had emailed a lot during matching, and we had lovely long chats by phone. I know that she’s busy working to make extra money to travel, seeing all her friends, etc, but I wonder: Is this a red flag?
Is this a sign that she is too self-centered? Will she slam into a wall when she gets here?
I’m starting to feel concerned because, while we’ve had good experiences with extension au pairs and rematch au pairs, the two I started off with “from scratch” went into rematch.