Deciding whether or not to pay for the online media (movies, TV shows, music) that you consume seems to be a generational thing.
Young people do it, we “olds” do not.
Sure — once upon a time I used Napster (dating myself). Until we got a reminder from the University where I worked that using Napster violated the Honor Code.
Since then, the only time I’ve intentionally avoided paying for media I was consuming was when I was desperate to watch Outlander while recuperating from my broken shoulder. I was so drugged up that first week — I don’t even remember much beyond Jamie’s brogue, so shame on me.
With a spouse who works in digital media and family members in the entertainment business, we have rules now about streaming pirated media. Our kids are not allowed to do it.
They have the passwords to our family’s Netflix and other accounts, and they have small budgets they can use to buy ‘pay per view’ movies every now and then.
Even with their relatively easy access to paid-for media, I’m pretty sure that they sneak-watch movies and episodes that they haven’t paid for, because– as they say — that’s what “everyone else does”.
Have you ever laid down a Paid Media Only guideline for your Au Pair or your kids? I don’t think I’d even have thought of it, until we got this email, below, from MomToJack.
We’re in our fourth year of having an au pair. We just experienced something that has not happened with au pairs 1-3 and I’ve never heard of it the issue from other families or here on aupairmom.com! (I really thought I had seen or heard it all.)
Just today I received an email from our Internet Provider that our address had been involved in violating copy right laws and we need to cease and desist such illegal activity.
I was in total shock as we don’t even jay walk!! The email went on to describe viewing of Grey’s Anatomy. I haven’t watched Gray’s in years, my husband doesn’t watch it nor does my son. Then I looked at the date of the violation, it was yesterday when we were both at work until 6:30 and my son didn’t get home until 7 and there was no tv watching.
So the violation described was (1) a mistake, (2) someone stealing access to our wi-fi, or (2) our au pair.
When I asked our au pair if she had done something with Grey’s Anatomy she said she had watched it. When I asked her if she had watched it on demand from our cable company she said no, I asked her if she used ABC.com she said no – then I asked her how she watched it and she said over the internet.
Turns out she went to a site recommended to her by a friend. That turned out to be the problem.
I explained to her why what she had done was a violation of the copy right laws (nobody had paid for the content) and that she must not do it again. I also explained that she has access to tons of on demand, Netflixs and Amazon Prime.
I do believe that this was an innocent mistake and that it won’t happen again. But, I was curious as to what if anything they teach au pairs about copy right laws in training school. Does anyone know?
Also, I wanted to share with this great group of host parents one more thing to discuss with your au pairs. I’ll be adding something to our hand book for next year.
Our LCC, who has been at this for several years, said she’d never heard of this issue before with an Au Pair. She didn’t know whether this was “covered at training school.”
Does your family have an (explicit or implicit) Paid Media Only policy?
Have you ever discussed this with your Au Pairs?
How do you feel about using Paid Only sources, using sites to sneak around paywalls, or otherwise “pirating”?
How would you respond if your Host Parent told you not to pirate media, or told you not to care about whether you pay or not?