Hi Readers, we interrupt our regularly scheduled plan for an emergency request for advice that popped up in the comments of the previous post. Here’s the issue, from VA AuPairMaidNanny:
Some of you dedicated readers & Host Parents will remember that I posted a few weeks ago about my experience so far. Many of you gave me some good advice, and now I need some advice from you all yet again.
Yesterday my 4 yr old (host child) bit me in the face for no freaken reason. It took alot of my strenght not to show my hurtful expression to her but i wasn’t going to let her get away with it, so i put her in to time out. While I was putting her into time out and explaining to her why it’s not nice to bite people,my host dad came downstairs. I know he heard everything. On seeing her dad,the little girl tried to get out of her time out. She begged her father that she didn’t want to be in time out.
Now what hurts me the most and brings tears to my eyes is that the only thing the Host Dad said to her was “I told you not to bite”. He turned on his heels and walked out the door. End of story.
What about physical and metual abuse that an au pair goes thru with the children? What about when the host parents know what happened and they just look the other way?
What more do i need to do or show the parents to discipline the kids?
I know for sure that when I have children i wouldn’t want my children going around biting people. Please, any advice would be appreciated.
Let’s be sure to distinguish advice regarding:
(1) what to do with the child,
(2) what to say to parents when a child is hurtful, dangerous, or mean, and
(3) how to deal with a host parent like this dad, who does not seem to want to take responsibility for his kid or to support his au pair’s efforts.
mean face from stevegatto2 on Flickr