It’s a classic case with a new wrinkle —
Your Au Pair’s friend, who is also an Au Pair, is doing something unsafe.
Your Au Pair told you about it, because she’s worried. And she should be worried, since the Au Pair’s friend is putting herself and her group of Au Pairs in a potentially compromising position. But…. what should you do?
How can you help in a positive way, without giving away the confidence of your own Au Pair?
The new wrinkle:
It’s not an escort service, driving drunk, or dating a married guy — it’s dating a drug dealer.
What do you advise?
Dear Au Pair Mom,
We are a new host family to a great au pair. She is very open with us (and vice versa), and frequently tells us what’s going on with her au pair friends and their host families.
Last week she told me that one of her friends (a fellow au pair) met a guy online, who lives out of state, and happens to be a drug dealer. Our au pair shared that she does not think this is a good idea, but didn’t say much else. A few days later, she shared that the guy will be coming to visit in late November and the au pair is planning on having him stay with her and her host family. I asked if the host parents were aware of his profession and if they were aware that he would staying with them (the au pair has her own suite so lots of privacy). The answer was no to both questions.
I feel obligated to report this to someone — the other host mom or my community counselor. However, I am worried what this will do to my au pair’s relationship with other au pairs, as well as our open communication.
If I were the other au pair’s host mom, I would certainly want to know if my au pair were dating a drug dealer, and that this drug dealer may staying at my house. Finally, I don’t want my au pair to be exposed to any danger by being friends with this other au pair . I am concerned about this friendship that my au pair has with the other au pair, as the other au pair is not exhibiting very good judgment. And while I believe our au pair knows this, the au pair dating a drug dealer is part of our au pair’s group of friends, and I’m betting that our au pair doesn’t want to lose the group of friends.
What to do?
Talk to the local Counselor? Talk to the other Au Pair? Call the other Au Pair’s Host Parent?
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