For Bothered Host Mom, things started out fine.
Then, oops, turns out her au pair wasn’t who she thought she’d be. Now what?
Our Au Pair was great — in the beginning.
We treated her like a friend and family member, gave her lots of gifts, took her to Vegas for her birthday.
She does a great job with the kids. There’s nothing abut her care of the children that concerns me.
However, as I’ve gotten to know our Au Pair, the more I started seeing that her values are very different from our family’s values.
She was on tinder and got a boyfriend. That’s when everything went south.
She does her job but she goes out every night. She doesn’t always respect the curfew of being home by 11:30.
She is not allowed to use our car anymore because at one point she drove the car at 94mph.
I found out that she can’t be trusted, she has lied to us about reasons she needs to borrow the car.
Now the boyfriend comes and picks her up every might. We’ve refused to meet the boyfriend or to introduce him to the kids. He’s not the kind of guy we want around our house.
We had 2 conversations about the car, how we wanted her to respect the curfew, how we enjoyed when she was a part of our family.
We saw her going from being a responsible adult who had lots of flexibility,privileges and freedom to acting like a bratty teenager and doing stupid stuff after she met this guy.
I feel like she doesn’t care about our family anymore. We are just being taken advantage of. She has no problem or shame in asking for anything that she needs.
Her presence in the house bothers me.
She went and got tattoos, ear expanders, and now it’s clear she has a very different and alternative life style. She’s just not the person I thought she would be.
Other things she does bother me:
- She takes advantage of people including her boyfriend.
- Sometimes before going to his house she packs our food to take.
- I’m like : why are u taking our food to your bf’s house?
- She practically lives there with him if she’s not working.
Truth is: I can’t stand her anymore. I want to go into rematch.
My husband thinks it’s not a good idea to start rematch with 9 months left.
He says we should just treat her like an employee and all he cares about is that she takes good care of the kids.
I’m just really bothered by everything. Help! I just want to fire her!!!!