Do you remember how excited you were, once you’d matched with your first au pair?
Wondering what s/he’d really be like? How the kids would take to her/him? How you’d all get along?
I myself was in a bit of a haze, getting ready to return to work from maternity leave, starting up classes again, and wondering how my spouse and I were going to manage two jobs, two households, and the traveling in between.
I think I was just RELIEVED when Margit arrived and was as delightful and kind as she’d seemed. There were challenges ahead, to be sure. But Margit’s help and the warm company were so wonderful it really did overwhelm any of the difficulty.
I was lucky that I had a best friend (albeit in another city) who’d had au pairs before. Funny, she never mentioned to me any of the harder parts of having someone join your family and work with you … she didn’t have a handbook to share or a whole lot of advice to offer, but she was so dang positive about the whole thing that I assumed all would work out as well for me as it had for her.
Which, when you come down to it, is great advice:
Expect your Au Pair Relationship to be good.
The First Time Host Mom who wrote for advice didn’t ask for or give too many specifics about their situation. She’s excited about her au pair, who seems lovely on Skype and met all the criteria they were looking for. … But still,
“It’s a big change. What are some ways to overcome my nervousness?”
Now, I know you all have a gazillion worthy tips for first time host parents….and the comments might become a free-for-all!
Let’s focus on the “nervousness” part, and on how to shift from feeling anxious to feeling excited and hopeful!