When teaching an Au Pair, it’s better to show than to tell.
“I love that this nanny is putting the kids into the car from the curb, and not out in the middle of the street. Even if it means she has to go around and open the other door to make sure the kids are buckled correctly, at least there’s no chance of the toddler stepping into traffic.”
Even better is when you can show your Au Pair something that someone else is doing wrong.
“Look at that mom on the corner, pushing the stroller out in front of her like it’s a snowplow or something. Does she want to make sure the car hits the kid before it hits her? She probably doesn’t realize how she’s trying to part the Red Sea with that darn stroller. She should keep the stroller right next to her and wait until she’s sure the cars have stopped before she steps off the curb.“
People actually learn better when they look at someone else’s mistakes. When we look at our own mistakes, our defenses kick in and it’s harder to see what we did wrong or what we might have done differently.
No such problem when it’s someone else’s behavior we’re criticizing.
Just be sure to be kind when you criticize that other person’s behavior.
You want to model kindness in general, and of course you’ll want your au pair to think you’ll address his or her mistakes kindly when/if mistakes happen.