Birds of a feather flock together, and often great au pairs have wonderful people as friends.
When you have a terrific au pair whom you wish you could replicate, sometimes matching with his or her friend seems like the next best thing. Or is it?
Host Mom Sandy D. asks:
We are finishing up our time with our first au pair, R. She has extended but only for three months since she will be starting college in her home country after the first of the year. We love R and have had a great year plus with her as part of our family. We have older kids (11 and 9) and an easy au pair gig with most weeks well under the hours limit and only rare morning hours. R has been completely responsible and we have had no significant problems with her at all.
We also have a very good relationship with R’s friends here, most of whom are from her same host country. As we were starting to look for our next au pair I realized that one of the candidates I had selected is from the same small city where R is from. I mentioned that to R and she wondered if it could be her friend M, who had told R she was interested in becoming an AP too. We confirmed that it was in fact her friend who is one of my AP candidates. R has said that M is great, can drive well, and she is sure that we would like her.
I love the idea of having a match with a personal reference like R and also the fact that R can talk candidly with M about whether we are a good match for her. It seems like a big plus versus having to select someone unknown and especially since I think R generally has nice responsible friends not party girls.
But I’d like to get a view from your more experienced moms as to whether there is a downside to hiring the friend of a great AP as the next AP.
Readers, would you match with your au pair’s friend from home?