Speaking of Au Pairs and a sense of Entitlement, Washingtomom writes:
Our Au Pair just sprung what I hope will be her last ‘surprise’ request of us.
How should I respond?
Her last official working day with us is July 31 as she is taking the last week as her vacation to travel to another city to visit, leaving on Saturday Aug 1 returning on Sunday Aug. 9.
She asked to keep her things here until the day she came back from the trip. That same day she’s supposed to go off to her next Host Family.
Well, now she just announced that she will be leaving our house on Tuesday the 11th instead of Sunday the 9th.
She “needs the extra day after coming back from her trip to clean, pack and have a farewell reunion with her local friends.”
I would be fine with this if she had at least asked if she could do this. She is aware that our new AP will be arriving that Thu ( Aug 13th) leaving me only two days to regroup.
My thoughts are, well,
- What am I supposed to do with her for the 2 days that she is not technically working with us anymore?
- Just let her come and go in and out of the house when she pleases?
- Put some boundaries?
- Simply ask her to leave on the 10th, the day after she arrives from the vacation?
I am sure that one of her friends can put her up, she has spent a few of the past weekends sleeping else where.
FWIW, she has not been the greatest AP.
This behavior of surprising us with a request at the last minute has happened before: She told me her mom was coming to stay for two weeks, one month in advance. Then I discovered the mom had booked this travel soon after the AP left her country — months earlier.
Just 3 weeks ago, she announced on a Tuesday that her sister was coming to visit and stay with us for the weekend
We accommodated that gracefully, but at this point I feel like she is trying to pull the “last” one on us.
How might I respond?
Can you help Washingtomom with some ideas that help her maintain her dignity?
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