There are some times when we make a mistake and can be given a second chance. We may struggle to be forgiven, but we know that we can earn back someone’s trust in us.
Then, there are those other times, when we make a mistake and that’s it.
We hear stories about au pairs who’ve broken the rules, misused the car, smoked in the house, or done something awful, and we can imagine the host parents wanting to rematch but opting instead to be forgiving.
However, there is one mistake after which you should NEVER give an au pair a second chance.
Never give your au pair a second chance once she has made a decision that has endangered your children.
Consider Abby’s story:
I have had my au pair for 5 months. I came home about 1/2 hour early from work to find my au pair had left 3 children (two 7 year olds and a 4 year old) alone in the house while she drove a short (10 minute maybe?) errand.
So….I am wondering about how others would handle this situation?
No matter what her explanation, the au pair made a bad choice. You NEVER leave children alone when it is your job to guard their safely. No errand is that important.
An au pair who made this mistake will make other mistakes.
Quite possibly, she has already made other mistakes and just not gotten caught.
Don’t imagine that by giving her a lecture and another chance, she’ll have learned to make better choices. I wouldn’t bet on it. Not when it concerns the safety of the three people you love most in the world.
Rematch. Now .
(p.s. Abby, we know you already knew this, and just needed to hear some support and encouragement.)