My Random, Crazy & True AP Story
We here at AuPairMom invite you to tell us some of your random, crazy and true stories about your experience with an au pair. We know you have stories, and we invite you to let ‘em loose.
Just two constraints:
- 1. The story has to be TRUE.
- 2. The story has to be told in one sentence.
So here’s the challenge:
Tell us about an outlandish au pair-related situation that is actually TRUE. It can be good, bad or neutral, but the story needs to be TRUE. It can be first or second hand, but no further, so that you’re sure it is TRUE.
Maybe this way I we can get out some of our yah-yahs. It’s a grey day here– lighten it up!
My Random, Crazy & True AP Story in One Sentence…
in the comments, below:
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1. My neighbor’s au pair signed up with a NYC escort service to make extra money.
ROTFLMAO. Are you glad you got that off your chest?
Thanks for sharing on a Friday afternoon.
Our Afrikaans AP flew her black BBH to the US for vacation without telling her parents, knowing that they sent her “abroad” for a year to get away from him and I was the one to unknowingly drop the bomb to her mother on the phone.
My au pair from Germany was asked to use our Toyota Corolla for a few days while “HER” Honda Accord was in the shop, she refused to drive the “ghetto mobile” and said she was sick.
AP took 24 hours to take a trip from the West Coast to Niagara Falls and back — spent 21h in transit, and had a great time.
AP Stopped car in middle of busy 4 lane Road, got out, locked keys in car, and couldn’t understand why she had 40 people stop to offer her assistance.
I’m curious why she stopped??
She was lost. Got out to figure out where she was. She was completely confused as to why everyone kept asking her if she was okay. It was a _major_ 4 lane road in our area, with a speed limit of 45 mph. (She also happened to do that the day we brought our second child home from the hospital, and called my husband to come and get her (in the days before cell phones were common). Mostly she called because they (she called a friend who came to help) tried calling a lock smith and that was going to be too expensive.)
My husband and I were stunned that she managed to talk herself out of the ticket the copy was going to give her.
Before a long road trip we stocked up on paperbacks for kid to read; Day 2 AP rifled through the shopping bag, convinced Kid the Elder to swap the first book in the series with her, dove into the book and ignored the toddler screaming in the carseat next to her for the next 6 hours. (One of many stories that Pointy Boots provided us in just a few short days before we booted her.)
CV, great format! Also love the new indented comments, so we can comment on the right person’s post. Nice tweak!
To clarify, this was the AP’s second day with us, not the second day of a car trip.
Our AP thought it was OK to put visine in the new puppys eyes because they were red!
LOL, that is hilarious!!!
hahahaha hilarious!!!!!
My Au Pair “found out” that she was pregnant of her boyfriend (at her home country) after 1 month living with us.
I she arrived in the end of March 2006 I so know who she is!!! She even told us all who had flown to the U.S with her that she had a sick person in the family and then showed up with a big belly on her pictures a few months later….
AP went home to visit, found out previous girl friend was pregnant and didn’t come back.
hahaha what a reason
My AP asked me how to make a fake ID so she could go out to the bars.
ROTFLMAO!
Ditto.
Ours too!!! Only the agency didnt believe us because they trusted the “intern” helping her!
Ours bought a laminating machine to generate her (and others?) fake id(s), posted the instructions on how to do it on her bulletin board and talked about it on facebook.
Were you a FB friend of hers? OMG… see, the brain not maturing until 25 things is so real, folks!
There is a good reason that I FB friend my AP and all of her AP friends!
Didn’t have to FB friend…she hadn’t applied securities to her FB page…it was out there for the world to see!
Everything was always posted on FB about ours. UGH
My husband and I overheard our au pair tell a friend that she had received $300 for having sex.
oh no. That’s horrible.
My friend’s aupair tried to become a surrogate mother while she was here – she wasn’t accepted, thank God.
My aupair once missed the last bus to our NY suburb. She found some tourists from Dubai and “spent” the night in their hotel room to avoid waiting until the morning bus.
How incredibly dangerous. Thankfully, nothing happened to her that night.
Our au pair smashed a screen door in with a sledge hammer because she couldn’t find the key but she had our cell # and she knew we were in town!
Our AP was driving home around 2 in the morning when a drunk doctor, who was receiving oral sex from a woman he picked up at a bar, smashed into the rear end of the our brand new Toyota Corolla and totalled it!
I think this one should win a prize.
I’m thinking “GARP.”
I’m hoping it wasn’t our former AP in the car with the doctor! LOL
ROFL!
The afternoon that we told our ap from Belgium that we were going to enter into rematch, she took our two year old twins to the park that you can see from our driveway, was not home three hours later after dark and dinner, claimed she got lost and just went to another park 20 minutes away, cops helped her pack her things before our LCC picked her up.
Scary!
The Fake ID one is the best ever! hahaha
Three weeks before she was going home, we found out that our Bosnian AP was stealing from us (for at least 5 months!) – glad I found my video camera, watch, necklace, clothing, swim goggles, Bliss cosmetics before she left – sorry I can’t recoup the hundreds of dollars she took (cash back when filling the car, buying groceries!)
My aupair failed her driving test 5 times, finally got it and totaled the car on her first outing alone.. Still, she was an amazing au pair
hahahah love it!
Our AP, who looks for every excuse possible not to pay for her own gasoline, just asked us whether she has to refill the tank to full after her entire exclusive weekend use of the car because she “drives economically”– not only does this not make sense (if the car is on full when her use of it starts, she’s expected to refill it to that point), her claim of economic driving isn’t even true because I had to remind her to stop speeding the one time she drove me!
I came home early one day because of severe weather warnings and found the AP and my kids in the laundry room, all wearing bike helmets (the laundry room was part of our tornado plan, the bike helmets were the AP’s [awesome] idea).
this is my favorite
LOL. The mental picture I have is hilarious!
Very sweet!
that is fantastic!
I think I might put this in our handbook!
Love it.
Omg, this was cute in so many levels that i can even hahahahahaha own
After having formal portraits taken at a local studio, our male au pair used his 2 weeks of vacation driving around Texas trying to find Beyonce’s parents’ home so he could deliver said portraits along with handwritten letters to her and her parents regarding his fitness as a suitor for her hand (he needed the 2 weeks because I declined to let him use our au pair credit card to pay a private detective for her address). All that said, he was a super au pair (if a lot naive) and he now has a lovely girlfriend and an advanced degree in chemistry.
priceless!
After our AP got into her last of a handful of car accidents, she decided she was unhappy with our new restrictions on car use, so she went out and bought her own.
That is AWESOME! Every time our AP complains that our (generous) car privileges are not enough for her, I wish she would do the same thing.
BTW–I love this thread, CV–helps blow off some steam over the sometimes silly, sometimes scary stuff.
There are just too many good stories out there! I think sometimes we need to be reminded of the range of things that APs do that surprise us
I’ll delete this one when I get home. No need to be mean. Grrr
cv
My au pair who’s only been with us for 5 months, is crying at the thought that she will have to leave us (19 months from now, yes, we are talking about extension) and will not see my kids every day. *heart*
cute
It’s not a story about au pairs, but the first thing my host dad said to me was “no alcohol. no cigarettes. only cocaine.” LOL.
our au pair was playing hide & seek with the kids, and somehow got herself tucked into the bottom shelf of the armoire in her room. We killed ourselves laughing while carefully extracating her.
I hope you were home when this happened! Although it’s funny to imagine your coming home to unsupervised children destroying the house and when you ask, “where’s your au pair?” the children nonchalantly say, “stuck in her dresser, Mommy.”
Our under age au pair kept beer cans (full) on her closet floor, diet pills on her night stand and a razor blade (for heaven knows what) on her bathroom counter and thought we were overreacting by being upset and demanding she loose or safely put up things that our toddler twins, our 7 yo son and all of his friends could find.
ughhhhhhhhh
Our aupair has broken all of the rules. Cerfew, Bars underage, drinking, sex…and the coordinator believes she is an angel. She lives with the coordinator until she finds the perfect family..UGH Now I have photos and video that will be sent to the agency and to the facebook link of the agency!
AP took kids to park; Oldest had to poop, so the AP let her go in the bushes behind the play area rather than take her to the bathroom 25 yards away.
I went to the kitchen and saw our AP cook on our flat top stove…literally on it — without a pan/pot!!!
This one made me laugh out loud!!
did it taste good???
What about my mom, she prefers tell everybody I am her nanny because she is to lazy to explains what is an Au Pair!
pretty judgmental on your part. Maybe your host mom is tired of trying to explain the whole au pair concept. I live in a very small town and I can explain the entire au pair thing to some people and they either say “oh, she’s like a nanny” or “so, she’s a foreign exchange student”.
It’s not that I’m lazy, as you say, but that I often have other things to do or I don’t have the patience to explain the whole thing again to someone I doubt will understand it anyway.
I know some people dont have an idea about the concept of an “Au Pair”, but rather than I think, that’s was her word one by one! And yes, I agree, I sometimes find myself telling I am “like a nanny”
Darthastewart – my kids call me mom (even in front of their real mom), so some people think I am the (ex-lover) new and younger wife!
And others make comments about “my” beautiful kids because we look pretty much alike! Even when they know about the twins they ask me how I did to loose the extra weight in 1 month!
Off-topic here (sorry), but I was struck by Annabelly’s use of the word “lazy.” And then I remembered that we had to explain to our au pair that that was an insulting word in English, and that people say it about themselves but don’t want to hear other people say it.
Back to topic, I also say nanny instead of au pair when I don’t have time to get into the “what is an au pair” discussion. But if we’re out and she’s not on duty, we introduce her as a family friend.
I agree with Annabelly- it’s annoying when people say I’m a nanny instead of an au pair. If someone doesn’t know what an au pair is, just explain the concept, it’s not that difficult. Think of it as five magnificent minutes to take out of your busy day where you can be enlightening your small town as to what an au pair is. Can you imagine a corporate boss fudging up someone’s title because they couldn’t be bothered to get it right?
Most people have no idea what an au-pair is. I will usually tell people she’s my au-pair, but sometimes I’ll say she’s a cross between a nanny and a foreign exchange student. Some people assume she’s my daughter. Some have assumed the au-pair is my husband’s younger girlfriend. (they really thought we had some kind of threesome going- even travelling with a small child) Sometimes I just say she’s my friend.
How do I explain when I have my current au-pair and a former one with me? I just tell them it’s a couple of friends.
I didn’t know that the term “nanny” was offensive to au pairs? We use “nanny,” “exchange student,” “babysitter” and “au pair” pretty interchangably when we are introducing our au pair, or telling another parent that she is going to pick the kids up from a playdate, etc. I don’t think other parents notice a difference…they know that she is part of the family and does a lot of things with us.
personally, i don’t think nanny is an offensive term for au pairs. it wouldn’t be for me. when there was time to explain i did. when there wasn’t nanny or babysitter was just fine for me.
maybe you should ask your AP if she feels degraded by the term nanny to be certain.
I don’t think it is either. Before coming here I used the terms AP and nanny interchangeably because not everyone knew what an AP was and it got old fast explaining it all the time. Now that I’m here to adults I refer to myself as an AP (everyone I’ve met here knows what one is, they either have had one or were one at some point) and to the kids mine havg out with I sometimes refer to myself as a babysitter, as there is a huge language gap and that is usually better understood.
as a nanny, I find it offensive to be called a babysitter; other girls may not. I’m a live-in, (very) full-time nanny/household manager who does pretty much everything for the family I’m with. I’m not a babysitter. lol
I can agree that a nanny should not be called a babysitter, but I also refer to my AP as our nanny sometimes. I’m pretty lazy though
hahahah
shame on her!
As I have said before I have been an aupair in the states through an agency and then a Nanny in Canada on my own and in the processess of applying to do a repeat year with an agency next year. I actually prefer the word “Nanny”. To me it sounds more professional. I do like AuPair too though and it came in handy when I was actually a “Nanny” in Canada explaining what I was too the parents at the french school. But I generally called myself the Nanny It is also easier to explain, Either name when I tell people what I am its always greatly recieved people think it is wonderful that, I am overseas, young and looking after children. I am proud of my profession and thats what it is to me, I am qualified, experienced, am good at what I do and absoultley love love my Job and never want to do anything else. I love the support I get with the aupair agency to allow me to live my dreams overseas looking after children.
aussiegirlaupair – when you decide to look for another family, please let me know – you seem absolutely fabulous!
I agree; I think “nanny” seems more professional. Aupair sounds more exotic, though…
Interesting side conversation about how to introduce your AP– whether to use AP, Nanny, Babysitter, or friend, or even just “she lives with us and helps with the kids”.
I’ve found myself at a loss too– wanting to say “AP”, but then not wanting to explain (it surprises me how many people don’t know what an AP is).
Hearing the APs side has made me realize it’s something I should talk to her about, and see if there is one approach that she feels most comfortable with!
I saw “this is M, our au pair from Sweden who is spending the year with us”. If the person doesn’t understand that explanation, I follow with, “she’s similar to a nanny only she lives with us, helps with the kids and goes to college”.
I start my first adventure in 6 weeks, and when people who don’t know what an au pair is that is exactly what i tell them…. a live in nanny. I have no same in being called a nanny.
I had this struggle before I found this particular thread and I think this is perfect (and similar to what I do say – but a nice succinct script).
I did discuss it with AP before and when she arrived – she was surprised that people in America would not all know what an AP is but I too live in a somewhat small (and predominantly blue collar) town. She was comfortable with what I proposed, which is to say that she is a young woman here from France on an exchange program who is helping us take care of our kids while experiencing America.
I have NEVER had anybody know what I mean when I say au pair. Even if they recognized the term, they still did not really know what it meant (often asking if she was from the United States or if she would be living with us). Last week, I introduced AP to my son’s teacher and it took a looooooong discussion to explain the AP and her role and I am still not sure the teacher understood!
The words Nanny and Au Pair really shouldn’t be used inappropiately. Usually, a Nanny has had experience working with children or may have Child Care qualifications. An Au Pair has no formal child care qualifications and even more concerning, some have no experience in caring for kids at all. The difference in pay rates reflects this.
Just to make clear, I never called my HM lazy, she calls herself like that, and Second, I don’t have problem with the term “Au Pair”, “Nanny” or “Babysitter”, for me is kind of the same.
But, is you look at Facebook, there are many groups called: “I’m an Au Pair, not a nanny!” BTW I am not part of that group!
I dont like being called Nanny. Why? Because I am not. I am au pair. if you have an au pair explain what it is. Its a GOvernment exchange program where young ladies from other countris has the opportunity to study and take care of kids. I dont think it’s offensive but it’s not right. For me it is lazyness. Although if host families wants to call us nanny they should pay us what a Nanny earns.
I’ve been reading this thread and I truly don’t understand what all the fuss is about. An au pair asked “Can you imagine a corporate boss fudging up someone’s title because they couldn’t be bothered to get it right?”
…uhh…yeah I can imagine it and so what? I can’t fathom letting it bother me that much. Perhaps Americans are not as title oriented as those in other countries…
When I am describing my au pair to someone with whom she will only have one time contact (e.g., a repair person), I say “babysitter.” It’s just not worth the extra confusion/time to go into a longer explanation. When I am describing her to someone with whom she may have repeated contact (the school, a teacher, another parent), I always use the term “au pair.”
Also, comparing au pair pay to nanny pay is not comparing “apples to apples” in terms of reponsibilities. Nannies do a lot more than au pairs. My nannies worked far more than 45 hours/week, washed family laundry, took care of the clutter, ran errands, went grocery shopping mutiple times/week, took the cars for service, arrived knowing how to follow a recipe and willing to cook, were solid drivers on day 1, etc. On a per hour basis, the gap isn’t that great. I’ve been fortunate to have had two excellent au pairs, but they are no comparison to an American nanny.
Ha! We have evidence our “big boss” doesn’t know the names of people who work right down the hall from her, much less each person’s titles! Good point.
Oh, Busy Mom, you had Alice from Brady Bunch. I want her… I’m just sure she never fed the kids dessert right before I came home from work to make dinner and then left the dishes on the table for the dog to ‘clean’.
I think this all depends on who is asking the question.
Family and friends have a natural interest in your aupair and are interested in her as a person. Every Tom , Dick and
Harry in the mall or the park is not entitled to an explanation. Sometimes I say this is my aupair , sometimes I say this is my nanny and sometimes I say this is my niece.
Sometimes saying this is my niece is a polite way of saying to a stranger ” go away , mind your own business and do not bother this young woman or I will call the police “. Then, there are other people to whom I enjoy explaining the relationship. One time my husband picked our aupair up at the mall – she locked the keys in
the car and when he arrived to said to some unwelcome helpers ” This is my Dad “. I thought that was just fine.
The ” helpers ” left very quickly.
Reiterating what I said above/cultural lesson time: please take care when you use the term “lazy.” It is EXTREMELY insulting in America.
So, au pairs, if you are insulted by the term “nanny,” ask your host parents not to call you that. But realize some things: (1) a nanny is a respected professional here, (2) don’t call an American “lazy” unless you want to hurt her feelings, (3) between the room, board, education expenses, and health insurance [such as it is] provided by your agency from the fees we pay…you ARE being paid as much as a nanny.
But they’re not a nanny, that’s the point. Regardless if the fees add up to it.
are nannies in the us paid just a minumum wage?
Not many “real” nannies (not babysitter or undocumented workers) work for minimum wage. We also get other benefits.
Nannies in our area, who are legally permitted to work, usually start at $15 an hour – more with experience – have at least two weeks paid vacation (not necessarily concurrent with employer’s vacation), sick days, and usually are able to negotiate that 100% of social security, taxes, and health insurance are paid by the employer. Most families in my area double on nannies, because unless they are extremely wealthy, the cost is prohibitive. Having tried, it is nearly impossible to sponsor a domestic worker as an employer (it took us 3 years just to rise to the top of the US Dept. of Labor’s review list, which was required before presentation to Homeland Security, and by that time our AP/Nanny had moved on).
Quite frankly, I don’t know anyone in my area, outside of undocumented workers, who works for minimum wage. (And for APs who think they are underpaid – the cost of room and board is calculated along with the stipend), but what is not – is the car insurance, the college stipend, extra cable TV hookup, etc. that the HF picks up as part of having you live in their home. (I hope not grudgingly.)
If you are thinking that it would be easy to get a nanny job illegally, you may be right, but you won’t be protected if your employer decides to fire you. I’d hire a lawyer before making that move – because I would want to know what my rights are and what my requirements are (e.g. filing social security, income taxes, etc.). Purchasing health insurance can be prohibitively expensive.
Just a little suggestion: This is supposed to be a thread about Stories and not about wether some AuPairs don’t like to be called Nannies or the difference between Nannies and AuPairs.
I guess every AuPair and every HF handles it differently so I would say either this discussion becomes a new thread or we should just leave it where it is and continue posting AuPair Stories
Thanks Anna-
I’ve been wanting to move the thread to another post of its own, but that takes a lot of time and I haven’t gotten to it…..yet!
Sorry CV–I thought I was through reading all the tangent comments, whoops! Back on track now
It was so much fun when we were talking about AP stories. I am an au pair but you can call me slave, if you like
Funny thing about my host family
They txt me at 8pm on a sunday (when i am always off) saying that I should come home now to talk about the bathroom (??) I think to myself, “maybe they are reforming it and need opinions” lol
I get home and host mom says for me to DONT put the toothpast in the dryer.
LOL
That’s a great one. Thanks for sharing it!
You put the toothpaste in the dryer?
Could be a good story the other way around as well: “My au pair put the toothpaste in the dryer”
My first au-pair ended up with a diaper in the washing machine. First and only time it’s happened with four kids. (so far… KNOCK on wood!)
My sister did that! little fuzzy sticky bits of white fluff evenly distributed throughout the entire contents of the dryer. I think we finally used duct tape to collect them all off the clothes. I was 8 but I remember like it was yesterday…these were the early days of disposables. Memories….
Of course I did while trying to organize the mess the bathroom always is but I put it in the DRAWER, not the dryer lol
My host kid who is 3 told her I put the toothpaste in the drawer but somehow she understood dRyer..
All i COULD think was : WTF?
LOL
I would always take a 3 yo’s reportage with a grain of salt! Everyone should remember to seek information, not blame, in what seem to be bizarre situations. Too funny! The perils of (mis)communication.
This is a good crazy au pair story:
Our au pair, who has trouble waking up too early, was up at 5am this morning, on her own, because we are taking her to the Bruce Springsteen concert tonight and she is soooo excited.
I wanna be your au pair. Bruuuuuuuuuuuce!
Our AP put diesel in the (gas) car despite my young children’s protests from inside the car.
Ouch! Hope the car wasn’t damaged. Did you drain the tank or just run it? I wouldn’t know what to do!
(IMHO, the APs who *do* listen to the kids are the ones who work out wonderfully.)
You’re right! I always ask the little ones where are the things around the house, what they normally have for breakfast or for exemple, where should I put the towels. I’ve been babysitting alot and I can tell when a child is honest or not. But mostly, they’re just happy to help you and they feel like they have a responsability. And they sometimes say ‘ mummy doesn’t do like this’ and it helps you to see how the things are going around the house. Because sometimes the parents are busy and they can’t explain you EVERYTHING!
My child that I looked after was a pathological liar. I couldn’t believe a word she said. Thankfully, neither did her parents.
Our au pair backed our car into the house that we were renting while on vacation! The reason she gave was “bad luck”.
i was an au pair in brisbane in australia, my mobile phone wasnt working so the dad gave me his old phone to keep. the old phone was full of dirty text messages from his wife and dirty videos of them to together, i never looked at them the same way again
ewwwwwww!!!
I am just so glad to hear that the texts were from his wife and not some girlfriend, LOL!
I have a few more…
My husband and I found the bumper to our au pair car had been badly damaged… and taped together with scotch tape from the kitchen. My husband said, “Nothing says ‘Au Pair’ like a scotch taped bumper!”
This same au pair also had a thing for looking at porn on our family’s computer- it was right in the internet history! It was easy to identify as hers (and not my husband’s for instance), because everyone in the photos was of her particular race and all of the text was in German! I called my husband and said, “Are you into German internet porn?” His reply: “I prefer the text to be in Swedish.”
Weirdly, she was an otherwise decent au pair!!
“Nothing says ‘Au Pair’ like a scotch taped bumper!”
LOL!!! you sound like really cool HPs
I should start this off by saying that all of our pairs have been fantastic young women who have taken good care of my severely retarded and medically fragile child. They work hard and I appreciate it.
However, I have many au pair stories. My first au pair’s friend washing and dried a car mat in our washer and dryer because she got something on it and her HM was angry. You should have seen me, when I got home after my AP had gone out on a Friday night to find car grease inside the inside of both my washer and dryer (and me with tons of laundry to do at the weekend)!
Because I cook and have plenty of baking and cooking supplies, my house always seems to be the place where au pairs try out new recipes. However, once another HM sent her au pair to my house to try a new recipe for her! I don’t mind my au pairs cooking for themselves, but for other HM? Too much!
A recent au pair was too trusting. After one of her friends got kicked out of her house by her HM, she came to live with us (I immediately hid as many valuables as I could). This ex-AP stole $80, a brand-new digital camera, and countless toiletries from my AP, and then had the chutzpah to ring her up when she had moved on to ask my AP to help her purchase a ticket back home! Fortunately my AP had a clue by then.
My favorite, though is the time that my au pair was driving home from the pediatrician with my daughter and son. Her best friend was with her to help guide her home and swore up and down that she knew the way. The two of them ended up driving completely in the opposite direction and took 2 1/2 hours to get home – until the friend found a familiar landmark – (this before we gave APs a cell phone). Needless to say, after that, we didn’t ask, “Do you know how to get home?” We said, “Tell me how you’re going to get home!” (My kids were not harmed, and I still find it enormously funny.)
I have one that I just remembered last night. My previous au pair grated cheese with the microplane grater, put the dirty grater (with cheese still stuck to it) back in the plastic sleeve that protects the grater and put it back in the drawer without getting it washed first. I asked her about it because I found it in the drawer in that state and could only assume it was her. She was embarressed but didn’t explain why she did it. I also would occasionally find dirty steak knives put back in the slots of the wood knife block. I never asked her about that but it must have been her also. I just shrugged my shoulders because I couldn’t think of any cultural differences that would be an explanation for putting dirty things back in storage without cleaning them first. Weird.
You’d be surprised what “clean” means in various countries. Sometimes it means freakishly clean and sometimes just as long as it isn’t rotting. Haha
One of my kids got an Ipod last Christmas and asked me to help her to download her songs. To put music into the ipod you need to open a program on the computer which automatically download the songs from your computer to your Ipod. However, in addition to music the program sends all the videos you have on the computer to the ipod. (such a nice technology!!!) The 8 years old girl end up with an Ipod full of music and porn video from her dad. So embarrassing for me and for him, since I had to tell him to be careful having that kind of video on the family computer with 4 kids under 10 at home.
What a brave AP to tell her HD to be careful with his “materials”!
[Apples are great--you can set up a separate desktop for each household member, with individualized password protection, settings for internet access/parental controls, and even 'working hours' so the kids can't get up in the middle of the night to surf the web, but AP can if she wants to.]
You can do that on any computer.
OMG! How embarassing………….for you, her and him…….
My first AP was German and arrived at our home with very little English. A few weeks into her placement, she had taken a phone message for me while I was out. She said it was from the “Criminal Agency.” I thought OMG what would a criminal agency want with me. She handed me the piece of paper with the number on it and so I proceeded to call it. It was my CLEANING AGENCY that answered!!!….At first I was so relieved, then we just laughed our heads off. She never had the confidence to take a message again!!
at least she tried taking a message – my current Aupair who has spotless English won’t answer the phone.
We tried a male AuPair last year and when we felt we needed to have a mediation with he and the coordinator re: the EXTREME porn downloads that her had placed on our computer his response was…” I don’t understand what’s wrong, I paid for the movies with my own Euros” …hello!! we have 2 young boys AND a 12 year old daughter! Hope he enjoyed the flight back to Germany. The agency removed him that night.
We had an au pair who was taking nude photos of herself, uploading them and emailing to her boyfriend back in Germany, from the kids computer! Thankfully, we found them before the kids.
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