I can’t even figure out how to begin this post! Where do you start, when you find out that your au pair is sending lewd photos of herself from her/your cellphone, and downloading lewd photos of someone else onto her/your computer?
We got this request for advice from a host mom who is, to put it mildly, distressed:
Our 20 year old AP is very pretty and quite “popular” on Facebook (2000 friends?!).
Recently she asked for help with something on the computer. When I went over, I (unfortunately) caught a glimpse of her chat box and wanted to burn my eyes out. She was having net-sex with some guy. EEK! I’m not sure what level her participation was, but there was some comment by him about her nipples and …
I really didn’t want to know any more. I didn’t say anything, mainly because it’s totally embarrassing and what do I say?
Wait, it gets worse.
So a few days later, I needed to update the firmware on her cell because we changed phone plans. When I picked up the phone, the wallpaper inside is some guy in his underwear!! So I looked in the pictures file and there she is taking self-portraits of herself half-dressed (top half not-so-much dressed).
What do I do?
- ignore it,
- tell her about the dangers of sexting,
- inform her that it’s our phone and computer and can’t be used that way?
This is worse than having my own (young) adolescent. At least American teens know that if they send pictures of their boobs around the whole school is likely to see it! HELP
Ultimately, we’re all going to put this one in our family guidelines, in the computer/phone section… but right now… what do you host parents recommend?