Here’s a tweak on the now-classic: “Mediocre Au Pair, Should We Rematch?” question….
Dear AuPairMom ~~ We have had our 2nd AP for about 4 months, and she is the definition of mediocre.
To be objective, she is a good driver and our toddler likes her. However, her English is very, very bad (I need to speak to her in her native language to have reliable communication), she does the bare minimum in her job, and is abusing her car privileges. She does not communicate with us….. and simply says that everything is “good, great” all the time.
She is terrified to get sent back to her home country (she desperately wants a green card), so does not give us honest communication about anything. We have not loved her from day 1, but we decided that we could make it work for the year and remain in a “good enough” situation.
However, now that I’m pregnant (due in October, 5 months from now), I’m rethinking whether or not we should just “make do” with this mediocre au pair.
I’m due about 6 weeks before her contract ends. This Au Pair is not infant-certified, so I know she will not be able to stay with us or extend (she desperately wants us to extend with her, which she asked for since day 1).
Given my pregnancy and the less-than-ideal situation with this Au Pair, I wanted to ask the group’s opinion.
Should we make it work with her until I have the baby, then look for a good, infant-certified AP?
Or, should just put her into rematch now, and try to find and establish an infant-certified AP now, prior to baby’s arrival?
I understand that even an infant qualified au pair can’t be left with any infant under three months old — I’m thinking ahead to when the new baby is 3+ months old, as well as the time when our Au Pair would take care of just our toddler.
I can see the benefits/drawbacks of both scenarios.. but wanted to ask the opinion of the experienced group. This is our 2nd AP, so we are still relatively green.
~ SickOfOnlyGoodEnough Host Mom!