Saving this post until after APAW— it’s too much of a misfit after all that appreciation!
… I am counting the days until she is gone.
She refuses to do anything except be a lukewarm body. She claims nothing is her responsibility. I provide written instruction each day. She ignores them.
She isn’t suppose to do laundry, cook, clean….because the kids are older and they should do everything!!!! If they don’t listen or are at sports, etc, then I have to do everything when I get home from work and on the weekends. She will sit on the couch, watch TV, call friends, use her computer and has no idea where my kids are while she is on duty.
She has dropped my kids at the mall (not permitted) so she can pick up a friend, etc. etc. Also, she wants off at 3 p.m when my kids come home from school. We get home at 7 p.m. and she is suppose to work 3 – 7 p.m. and usually has a 2 hour break during this time due to kids activities and the refusal to cook dinner, etc.
Mornings are 7 – 8 a.m. to get the kids on the bus. She has the entire day off, but she doesn’t like the hours she signed up for.
I can tell you story after story, but at this point there is nothing I can do but feel the pain. I have no idea what I am paying for. I have been extremely accommodating.
My first LCC told me to treat them like grocery store clerks and make them do their job. If you are nice, they take advantage….after two transition au pairs…boy was he right. I kept saying- they are suppose to be a member of your family, etc. etc. I took them out to dinner, gave them gifts, did everything possible to help them and they couldn’t even put my coffee cup in the dishwasher!!!! Absolutely nothing extra, and never what they are suppose to do each day……and they only had to work 25 hours per week….maybe.
I come home from work and clean up after her and the kids, (she didn’t make the mess and she shouldn’t clean up after kids that are old enough to do it themselves) cook dinner, do laundry, grocery shopping, etc. and she goes out with her friends. The mileage on my car is ridiculous and she doesn’t put gas in the car. I talk to her until I am blue in the face, but nothing ever changes. She makes faces when I talk to her and plays dumb and claims she doesn’t understand.
Sorry…………I don’t mean to go on, but the only thing I will appreciate is when she is out of my life. Yes – I have had numerous meeting with the LCC and I have always given another chance. Never ever again. Shape up or ship out .. and after nine months I have had to pay for two weeks vacation and all the education. Plus she calls and lets me know that she is leaving early because she has plans and that we better get home. All I can say is the NERVE. I have been told by the agency………..no answer …………new au pair is coming soon. I have no family and can’t take time off from work so …..here I am …with nothing to appreciate.
I hope you all have much better stories about great au pairs. I hope to get one soon. Sorry…but I haven’t had a good day in a really really long time.
Readers, this comment was posted in the Au Pair Appreciation Week area, and I took it out because it just didn’t feel right to have anything so unhappy there. I’m not sure if there is anything to say or suggest that would help this Host Parent, but if you have any ideas, please feel free to add them, below.