I found one post about the topic from 2010. I am curious if something has changed for HF’s?
I am gay but none knows about it. None back home in my country neither here in the USA. I care for two precious girls and I really feel like a part of a family but at the same time I have a feeling of betraying them.
My HF seems open and tolerant but I don’t really know what are their feelings about gay au pairs taking care of their kids. They keep asking me about boyfriends and stuff so I answer honestly, no I do not have one- but it is not telling the full truth either!
I come from a place where you can be easily put in danger when it comes to revealing your sexual identity. Here in the USA, I don’t want to end up in rematch. I am afraid of peoples beliefs, either religious ones or just assumptions that every gay person is pedophile. I have lived with this secret 23 years, so I guess I could say nothing for six more months, but it keeps bothering me. ~QuestioningAuPair
Have things changed?
Back in 2010 when we discussed Choosing an Au Pair: Sexual Orientation as a consideration, four things became clear:
1. Host Parents were less concerned than the original poster feared.
2. Many host families were happy to welcome an au pair who was not heterosexual.
And, many families imagined they’d have similar expectations of au pairs whether the au pairs were in same sex or opposite sex relationships, or both.
3. Host Parents felt comfortable with their personal choices,
whether that meant that sexual orientation did matter or didn’t matter to them. “The beauty of the program is that you match with an au pair that fits with your family.”
4. Host Parents and Au Pairs welcomed more inclusive language in our conversations on the blog.
That was all great to learn… but the question “Have things changed?” is still open.
So I’m wondering…. if you think back to where you were either in 2010 (if you were a host parent then) or when you got your first au pair (more recently):