Comments on: Is Snooping in your Au Pair’s room ever okay?

By: OffendedHMAP

OffendedHMAP — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 03:26:15 +0000

“I think we americans can be too trusting and naive. There are girls in other countries who are desperate for money and not so moral, and it is easy money, and much more than their stipend. Very tempting.”
I found that so offending. Yes, so every prostitute in North America comes from a foreign country? Ridiculous. I think some Americans certainly have a wrong notion of the rest of the world, and much more, about our own problems and morals as a country.

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By: Busy Mom

Busy Mom — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 00:47:44 +0000

AP,

Your attitude is truly disappointing. Since the computer AND the internet connection belong to and are paid for by the host parents, why is it “lame” to snoop for piracy. Wait until you get a real job at a company that monitors your email exchanges, prevents personal email from being accessed at work on company computers, and prevents flash drives from being used. Think I’m making this up? Nope. This was routine security at an investment bank I worked for.

We have a house rule forbidding piracy in any form…software or music or whatever.. on our computers using our internet connection. I’m not a lawyer, but it would be a professional liability if anyone in my household were caught pirating. We make it clear that piracy is grounds for immediate rematch. It’s unethical and ILLEGAL! I’m sure that there are many host families who do it. I know that some of my friends do. But, my family doesn’t.

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By: aria

aria — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 01:04:40 +0000

My old HF had the no illegally downloaded material rule too. I actually observed this to a T- they were lawyers and I knew they would wash their hands of me quick if I made any kind of trouble for them in this sense. I paid for my own internet connection and *blush* downloaded a LOT of pirated stuff. But at least I was paying for the internet!

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By: ap

ap — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 00:53:45 +0000

lol. I hope my family don’t mind piracy, I have over 4 terabytes of pirated goodies. Also, snooping for piracy… that’s pretty lame.

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By: lifinved

lifinved — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 17:22:14 +0000

That mightseem a that winking ???. ???????? ??????: (495) 638-50-88. clit. Oh dont.

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By: Anna Au-pair

Anna Au-pair — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 13:04:06 +0000

I am from Eastern Europe, Czech republic. Yes, religion here and in the other countries took a long hiatus. But that doesn’t mean that we steal, do drugs or sleep with different person every night.
Of course, some people do that, but I guess it won’t be worse than in the rest of the world. Even though we are not religious, we have parents who told us what’s wrong and what’s right. And yes, we do not fear God, but we all want to keep the respect for ourselves, especially when we know that the “great western civilisation” sees us like poor people who live in slums and never seen flushing toilet or TV remote before.

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By: cv harquail

cv harquail — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 12:33:58 +0000

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By: EUROaupair

EUROaupair — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 13:46:41 +0000

I would never go through my HM’s or HF’s belongings. Ever. I would be ropable if they went through mine. Its about respect. I don’t mind if they come for a quick glance around my room, there isn’t much to see, but I would be so offended of they expected to find something. I never go in their room. The closest I get to ‘hardcore snooping’ is when I rifle through the kitchen cupboard to find something to add to dinner.

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By: aupair

aupair — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 23:22:10 +0000

I have to say, I let my HM amd HD to come into my room. They first knock politely at the door and then I invite them inside. Maybe often they just tell me they will go inside to take/ fix something. BUT TO SEARCH IN MY RUBBISH BIN??????? omg…I can’t believe that some of you do that! it shows the lack of respect you have for your AP’s intimacy. it’s really desgusting!
and to read her diary or to open her computer or drawers?
i’m shocked…and it suppose you are the mature ones…if you suspect your AP of something, why don’t you just confront her in face? why you have to smell her clothes and then to say, on a public space, about their bad way of taking care of themselves? why don’t you just say : hey, i think you smoke, I can smell it? I would like you to stop it?
and to go into your AP’s room on her back…..what kind of persons are you? teenagers?
I’m really desgusted….I can’t find something else more horrible than shooping in a bin!

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By: Should be working

Should be working — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 18:00:00 +0000

Shame on me! Turns out she had paid it online, told DH all about it AFTER she had already handled it herself. Serves me right for garbage-snooping.

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