How might an Au Pair help a grieving family?
Dear Au Pair Moms –
I was an AP for 2 years with a family, then came back home. Now, two years later, I will be going back to help the family during a very difficult time.
I wanted to go back because my HD got diagnosed with cancer last year, and with the kids’ current AP leaving soon, my HM thought it’d be a good idea to have someone they already know and love to care for them in this difficult time. I love the kids, of course, and knew it would be a challenge.
This week the sadness took over all of us when my dear HD passed away. He was so very young, good, loving with his family and friends. An amazing human being.
My question is: I will be arriving there in a very short time, and the situation is even harder than I’d imagined. I wonder, how do I help grieving children? They are very, very young. A pre-teen, and 3 under 5.
It breaks my heart to think how hard this time will be for them so I want to be prepared, I want to do my best for this family that helped me and loved me so much during my time there. It will also be hard for my HM, of course, she’s lost the love of her life and father of her children. I want to be there for her too.
I know I won’t be “alone” because their families are knit together and will always be there to help but when everybody in the extended family is gone, it’ll be just me, helping them get back to school, and regain their footing as a family.
Do you parents and au pairs have ideas for how I could approach this situation? Any advice?
Thank you very much. Alex.