Our first 2 Au Pairs were fantastic … but we are having a hard time bonding with #3.
She initially had difficulty keeping our 2 boys (age 5), and focused on activities rather than wrestling but seems to be improving in that area (very slowly)…
However, getting her to talk to us or the kids is painful and slow. She seems content making lunches and getting them organized, but doesn’t engage them to any significant degree. The boys don’t DISLIKE her, but I am extremely disappointed by her distance and lack of engagement. The boys had very engaging relationships with #1 and #2 even though #2 had terrible English when she arrived.
I am terrified about a potential rematch for many of the reasons (talked about on this blog) and wonder: How long I should give her to change or evolve? Should I just give up and try a new AP?
Or should I wait for some specific incident? OB Mom