Moms- We’ve got another request for advice! Not so surprisingly, this request shares a theme with last week’s question, about how to get your au pair ‘out and about’ so that you can have some alone-ish time.
I’ve taken the liberty of highlighting some of the passages to call your attention to them… What are your ideas?
We are first time host parents and our au pair has been with us for 6 weeks. My husband works outside of the home and travels quite a bit for his job. I am a stay-at-home mom of 4 under 4 and am constantly filling our social calendar with fun activities throughout the weeks to keep the children entertained. We have tried our best to include our au pair in family outings (i.e. day trips to explore our historical city, day trips to Annapolis, D.C., etc.) which she has enjoyed, but I’m finding that if WE don’t “initiate” any type of outside of the home activity, she seems to just hang around the house or stay in her room. We would love for her to branch out and meet others in the community her own age so she may have a more fulfilled experience during her year in the U.S.
What they’ve already done to help
Upon her arrival, we immediately
– took her to our wonderful downtown area to see the sites (which is only 5 miles away),
– gathered all kinds of literature about our city, metro schedules,
– suggested an ESL class that was starting within her first two weeks. She was very excited about getting to practice and learn more english right away.
– She also wanted to purchase a bicycle, so we took her to do so right away.
Any suggestions on how to get her to interact more with others? We have let her know constantly that we are very open to her inviting over other au pairs, having play dates with other host families children, using any of our cars to do things at her leisure, etc. She just doesn’t seem to have the “want” to do anything.
Also, she is 25, not 18!!
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
(I’ll weigh in eventually too…)