About three weeks ago my au pair’s boyfriend (local in the USA) died suddenly in an accident.
By way of background, she has been with us since last June and is planning to stay another year. We have twin boys that are 13 months old. Both my husband and I work in demanding jobs. We all adore her.
She seems to be doing OK, but not all the time. She seems more quiet and withdrawn, emotionally fragile, and low energy. She wants to stay here for another year (after briefly considering returning home).
I care about her, sympathize with her loss and grief, and do want the best for her.
I am also concerned about my kids.
My mind is going to all sorts of places envisioning the results of her being distracted while caring for my toddlers. Apart from safety issues, I worry that she’s just lacking energy and generally depressed (again, totally understandable).
She is getting counseling, but I think it will be a long process.
Has anyone out there dealt with a similar situation?
How can we help our au pair during this difficult time, and how can we also make sure our kids are okay too?
Thanks in advance for your advice ~