Dear AuPairMom- I have made a few mistakes with my host family, and I am wondering if I can fix things.
I arrived in the US a little over 5 months ago. After three months I broke my wrist, needed surgery, could not do my job correctly but I got an incredible support from my host family. I got sick a couple of weeks ago and even fainted, but my host parents were there for me while I got better.
However, in addition to these health situations, I also slept through an alarm this week and missed picking up my host kid on time. I showed a lack of judgment, because instead of trying to call both my host parents to let them know it had happened (just tried my host mom’s and did not leave a message), I just hurried over once I discovered my mistake.
Also, once before I was a few minutes late, and since we talked about it later on, not right away, so I didn’t think being a little late would be a problem.
I see myself as someone who usually is always on time. I take my job really seriously, I love the kids and the family.
But with these mistakes I think I have lost their trust in my capacities as being a good caregiver.
I see they want to give me a shot at it and I want to do my best at earning and deserving that trust again but do you think this will ever be possible? I feel like my health issues have broken something in our relationship that is not going to be healed. They don’t trust me driving so much and get worried if I don’t come home at the same time as usual with the kids (when we were just playing outside).
Has anyone been in this position or a similar one as a host parent ? What did you do ?
Has your au pair been able to win your trust back?
Please give me advise, I really need it right now. My host family is incredible and they are the nicest people I’ve ever met.
It makes me really sad not to be reliable for them when they have helped through so much.