A host mom emailed to get my opinion on whether or not to go into rematch.
This host mom and her family have a less-than-great au pair, one who is kind but can’t seem to complete tasks. Who is on time but ultimately not reliable. And, she’s not very smart. She’s so ‘not smart’ that her host kids (all very bright tweens) have a hard time connecting with her.
After 4 months of hoping things will get better, going over the handbook, writing reminders, having meetings and following up, it is Just. Not. Working.
They could go into rematch. But, you can never be certain that your new au pair will be overall better than the one who’s leaving. And, is this one really so bad that we can’t take another 7 months?
The truth is: Rematch takes a lot out of a host family and out of an au pair. Once it is initiated, it can’t be undone. Host parents usually need to feel completely confident that rematch is the right think to do before they are willing to initiate it.
Initiating a rematch is not something that any host parent takes lightly.
We have talked a *lot* on this blog about rematches… when to do them, how to do them, why to do them. Reading over in my mind all of your comments about rematch, I notice two basic trends:
1. Host parents are reluctant to rematch.
2. Host parents who do rematch invariably say “We should have rematched sooner.”
One thing I don’t think we’ve ever seen on this blog is a comment from a host parent who said “I regret that we initiated a rematch.”
So, among AuPairMom readers, is there anyone out there who has regretted initiating a rematch?
Share more about your experiences of rematch regret or lack thereof in the comments….