Can you remember back to when you were a first time host parent, still trying to figure out how you could make this au pair thing work for you?
We have a family friend, MD, who’s wading into this for the first time, and she asked me to ask you:
If you were a First Time Host Mom, would you prefer an Extending Au Pair, or one from the regular applicant pool?
My friend HM Cindy thinks it’s a bad idea to match with an extension au pair when you’re a first time host mom.
HMCindy believes that most extension au pairs are set in their ways, already molded by their first host family and usually unable to be flexible and to adapt to a very different host family. And, she also worries that an extension au pair already knows how to make the situation work for her or him, and thus might have more influence in the host family-au pair relationship than s/he should.
But I disagree.
I think that choosing an extension au pair — when you can talk with his or her previous host family — might make many parts of the au pair-host family relationship easier to establish. Extension au pairs already know the country, have learned enough English, have gotten driving experience (if that’s been part of their first situation), and know what they’re in for as part of the family that also does important paid work.
What do you think?
If you were advising MD,would you suggest that she look at extending au pairs first?
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