Caring for an infant, especially when the parents are brand-new to parenting, can pose special challenges for an Au Pair.
Au Pairs in these situations will already be ‘infant-qualified’ — meaning that they’ve had direct experience with infants and will know how to do all the basics. But because parents are still feeling their way with the new baby as a physical creature AND in their roles as parents, there are usually unanticipated details that you have to sort out together.
For me, with my first baby, it was perfume. I couldn’t bear having the baby smell like some grown-up’s perfume, whether it was the baby’s grandmother’s scent or the au pairs. I put that detail in my family handbook — but ALAS only after the problem occurred. And I think I was probably overly-freaked out towards my poor, loving mom-in-law.
If you were advising a brand new mom, with a brand new infant and a brand new au pair, what would you suggest that she add to her family handbook?
As this mom asks:
Hello Aupair Mom!
I am going to be a first time au pair mom in June this year (and a first time mom as well – with our first baby!) and am very excited to meet our au pair from Colombia, who will be joining us one week before our baby boy is due. I am an avid follower of your blog, and I thought I would ask your opinion on something I am struggling with.
I recently started putting together ideas for our household handbook, and the examples I found on your blog really helped. However, all of the examples are catered towards older toddlers/children with certain likes, dislikes schedules etc.
Do you happen to have any example of a household handbook for a little baby? As this is our first experience with a baby and with an au pair, we don’t know where to start!
Image of adorable baby, by abbybatchelder