Comments on: Extending with your current Au Pair: A Bad Idea? http://AuPairMom.com/extending-with-your-current-au-pair-a-bad-idea/2009/04/20/celiaharquail/ Helping Host Parents and Au Pairs build great relationships. Tue, 22 May 2012 09:09:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Theresa http://AuPairMom.com/extending-with-your-current-au-pair-a-bad-idea/2009/04/20/celiaharquail/comment-page-1/#comment-1613 Theresa Tue, 21 Apr 2009 20:32:43 +0000 http://AuPairMom.com/extending-with-your-current-au-pair-a-bad-idea/2009/04/20/celiaharquail/#comment-1613 I'm not a hostfamily, but an au pair (or used to be, until last summer), and I don't agree at all that you should never extend with the same au pair. I extended with my hostfamily and it worked out great. But I have to say that I probably had the best hostfamily in the world (no offense ;) ) and we had (and still have) a great relationship, I became part of their family (plus extended family) and I always will be part of their family. I love the family as much as I love my own family and I always will. I just returned from my visit and it was as if I've never been away. What I'm trying to say is, that extending with the same au pair can work out great, especially when you have a great relationship with your au pair. For me (and for my hostfamily too), extending was the best thing, and it made us get even closer. But I do agree that you probably shouldn't extend with a so-so-au pair, or if you don't have a good relationship with your au pair, as things probably won't improve much. But if you have a great relationship with your au pair, and she became part of your family, go for it and extend with her, you wouldn't exchange a "regular" familymember for another one, would you? I’m not a hostfamily, but an au pair (or used to be, until last summer), and I don’t agree at all that you should never extend with the same au pair. I extended with my hostfamily and it worked out great. But I have to say that I probably had the best hostfamily in the world (no offense ;) ) and we had (and still have) a great relationship, I became part of their family (plus extended family) and I always will be part of their family. I love the family as much as I love my own family and I always will. I just returned from my visit and it was as if I’ve never been away. What I’m trying to say is, that extending with the same au pair can work out great, especially when you have a great relationship with your au pair. For me (and for my hostfamily too), extending was the best thing, and it made us get even closer.
But I do agree that you probably shouldn’t extend with a so-so-au pair, or if you don’t have a good relationship with your au pair, as things probably won’t improve much. But if you have a great relationship with your au pair, and she became part of your family, go for it and extend with her, you wouldn’t exchange a “regular” familymember for another one, would you?

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]]> By: Dawn http://AuPairMom.com/extending-with-your-current-au-pair-a-bad-idea/2009/04/20/celiaharquail/comment-page-1/#comment-1589 Dawn Mon, 20 Apr 2009 14:56:07 +0000 http://AuPairMom.com/extending-with-your-current-au-pair-a-bad-idea/2009/04/20/celiaharquail/#comment-1589 I couldn't figure out how to post as anything but "anonymous" on Skribit, but I asked for this as a potential post topic, so I'm glad to see it here! I'm looking forward to seeing how people "vote" on these questions. I've already had the experience of extending with the "so so" AP, and wouldn't do that again. But now we have a totally wonderful, amazing AP (I'm already mentally composing my "tribute" to her for APAW!), and I would love to extend with her when the time comes (if she's willing), unless people raise some really compelling reasons not to. I couldn’t figure out how to post as anything but “anonymous” on Skribit, but I asked for this as a potential post topic, so I’m glad to see it here! I’m looking forward to seeing how people “vote” on these questions. I’ve already had the experience of extending with the “so so” AP, and wouldn’t do that again. But now we have a totally wonderful, amazing AP (I’m already mentally composing my “tribute” to her for APAW!), and I would love to extend with her when the time comes (if she’s willing), unless people raise some really compelling reasons not to.

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