How much improvement is ‘enough’ to shift an au pair out of “on the way to rematch”?
(1) The au pair’s performance will improve,
(2) Performance will improve enough to satisfy the Host Parent’s original concerns,
(3) The mediation & improvement process won’t have damaged the Au Pair’s and Host Parents’ feelings of goodwill towards each other, and
(4) We’ll avoid rematch.
Ultimately, we expect to enjoy the rest of the Au Pair’s year, with good performance and a reasonably good relationship all around.
But that’s not always what happens.
AlwaysHopeful HM is living up to her screen name, asking how she might evaluate her au pair’s efforts to improve.
We are currently in the 2nd week of mediation with our AP of a few months.
The first week of mediation was rather meh. AP got some things done, but not all (for example, AP left for an extended trip with a load of wet clothes in the washer…). Today, AP redoubled work efforts and got everything done. AP’s relationship with my son has become somewhat strained, but things seemed okay today.
We’ll see how the rest of the week goes, but my question is: how much is enough to stave off rematch?
I don’t expect perfection, but so far, I’ve been underwhelmed. I’m pretty confident that rematch is our best bet, but it seems harder to justify when there’s been SOME improvement.
Anyone been in this situation?
Did you go ahead and rematch, or plod through an improved but not great year?
Whichever you chose, would you do it again?
Image: Cornet 2 by Piers Nye