Back in 2010, we had poll to see what percent of au pair blog readers had a curfew on the car that the au pair uses. 60% of host families who responded to that poll had a curfew on their au pair car
[ Check out that post: Au Pair Guidelines: Does your car have a curfew? (Poll) ]
Host Mom KLG wonders what happened to all those other families. It seems to her like she’s the only host mom who has a curfew for her car. She writes:
We are now hosting our 5th au pair. Our first 3 au pairs were wonderful. For all of them, we had a car curfew –the car had to be home in the driveway on the weekends by Midnight.
The car rules state “No drinking or driving”. This means that our au pairs should not be driving the car to go out drinking at bars.
I have noticed, however, that most other host parents do not regularly the car use. It is difficult for us as host parents to have such strict rules when most of the au pairs are able to have the cars all night and drive to and from bars (probably not sober!!). I am just surprised by this.
Our new au pair arrived from Mexico a week ago. She met some girls in her cluster who told her they go to DC every weekend to the bars. I told her that I would be happy to drop her off At the home of whichever au pair is driving that night. I was clear that we would not allow her to drive our car into DC to go out to bars. I also explained that she could not drive the car to the Metro station and leave it in the parking lot there. That just meant that she would have to drive it home from the Metro station after an evening of drinking– which is just as bad as driving the whole way home from the city.
Our 4th au pair was 25, and I thought she would be mature enough to make safe decisions with the car. After several months of taking it every single weekend and leaving it at the metro and coming home late on Sunday nights we had to ask her to not take it anymore. It had become a problem and she had been lying to us. That caused a lot of hurt feelings on both sides.
Our new au pair seems okay with our car rules. However, it is really hard for me to imagine that all of these other families don’t realize the risk they are taking by letting these girls drive the cars to bars and parties on the weekends and drink.
If you have taken a more recent poll on this, it would be great to see.
Anyway, I am trying to be fair and to trust our new young lady so am hoping to get some perspective and advice. Thanks, Host Mom KLG