I got this question, from OBMom, just after I sent my DH yet another email with the details of daughter #2’s school dance performance and implored him (okay, nagged him) once again to make sure he gets there on time . We are overwhelmed by end-of-school events. June is the née September, I’ll say, and I’m not sure that even *I* want to go. But I do go, as a show of love and support.
How involved should we expect an AP to be in all the celebrations at the end of the school year? Those of us with school-aged kids know that this time if year has lots of events that the kids are involved in during or after school. Awards ceremonies, band concerts, drama presentations at school, etc. How much enthusiasm about these things can we hope our APs to show?
Personally, we’ve had the whole spectrum, the ones that I know I can send with a video camera and the kids will be just as happy to see, ones that give up their Friday nights to stay for the middle school talent show to those that seem to run away as soon as a parent is in the building. Or if we ask her to stay, she looks incredibly bored or texts the entire time.
I think that how involved APs are in these events correlates with how much they connect with and love the kids … And how much a part of the family they want to be.
Unfortunately right now we have the latter type. She stays at baseball only until we arrive, and then goes home to her room even during playoffs … And didn’t show much interest in thevoutcome the next morning. She saves us seats for band concerts, but then leaves ASAP when we arrive. Isn’t school life part of the cultural exchange? Or is it “work” time?.
I’d love to hear how other families approach this —
Not sure how to pose this, but something to consider if you are short of ideas…