Here’s a situation that’s hard to write a headline for, and perhaps even harder to solve.
We’ve often heard from Au Pairs who have host kids who hit, scream, cry, and throw tantrums.
We’ve also often heard from Au Pairs whose Host Parents don’t seem to mind when kids behave badly.
When these two situations are combined, it’s really tough.
Dear AuPairMoms, I am hoping you can help me find a way to resolve this difficult situation.
This is my very first time as an au pair. I have been here (Spain) 5 days and although I know it is very early, I have already noticed that one of my two children is VERY misbehaved.
Examples: hitting me, laughing and after I firmly say: “NO! Do not do that.” he laughs and says yes over and over and proceeds to hit me and his little brother.
He also cries CONSTANTLY. For attention mostly but also when someone tells him no or someone asks him to do something he does not want to do.
I have been here 5 days, and do you know how many times this child has cried in those 5 days? 97 times. I’m keeping count.
I am never alone with the children. The mother is always with me. This child hits her and disobeys her.
The father says “Boys will be boys” and continuously makes excuses for the boy. The child listens to no one and does as he pleases. The other child is a perfect angel…
When I try to speak with the parents about my concerns…they give excuses and almost in a way make me feel stupid for bringing it up. They make me feel like because it’s my first time as an au pair, that I do not have a valid point to make.
I am starting to think I have made a mistake by traveling 5,000 miles away from home. I love this family, but I do not enjoy this child in particular… What should I do??
Image by Thomas Hawk on Flickr. These kids aren’t naughty, but they sure look mischievous, no?