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Cars & driving

My Au Pair got a speeding ticket

by cv harquail March 1, 2010

Has your au pair ever gotten a speeding ticket? That you know of? Or that you found out about later, after several summonses arrived in the mail? How have you handled this?
Tell it to this Host Mom:

Our au pair got a speeding ticket– a surprise for her and for me. Now I have to figure [...]

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Why Safety Rules Matter

by cv harquail January 30, 2010

I get a lot of crap from people about the safety rules at our house. Apparently we’re a little strict.
Probably our most prominent safety rules have to do with driving. For example, I don’t use my cellphone when I drive. I just don’t.
I’m that person who waits ’till she gets where she’s going, then parks [...]

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Took the car for the weekend & lied: Should I report car stolen?

by cv harquail January 23, 2010

The quick answer?

Only if you’re ready to rematch, and

Only if you are ready to have your au pair hate you.

And you may well be ready for that, if this situation is what it’s boiled down to:
I actually just found this great blog because I believe my au pair has stolen our car to take a [...]

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Can you dock her pay if she owes you money? Poll

by cv harquail August 14, 2009

Are there any situations when it’s fair for you to withhold or ‘dock’ your au pair’s pocket money?
We skirted around this issue in a previous conversation about when your au pair refuses to work, but never answered it directly. Now, we’ve got a topic request (on Skribit) with a very specific situation:
You AP has a [...]

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Auto Insurance: Is your AP on your policy?

by cv harquail July 17, 2009

Here’s a quick question from the suggestion box:

Do you put your au pair on your auto insurance policy?
For me, this one is a no-brainer. If your au pair drives your car(s), she should be on your policy. It’s not just the law, it’s a good idea. h
As younger and less experienced drivers, au pairs are [...]

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Working out isn’t working, is it?

by cv harquail June 11, 2009

What really counts as "work" and when are we willing to bend the rules? This mom’s getting a workout– and not the kind that makes your heart healthy. …
"We are family members at our local gym, which provides childcare while parents are working out.
We added our au pair to our membership (didn’t change the cost [...]

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The 3rd Car: Avoiding a sense of entitlement

by cv harquail March 31, 2009

We all want to be generous, and we all want to be appreciated. There’s nothing like having a third car for your au pair to use to make you aware of the tension that can exist when you want to be generous and want to be appreciated.
When we bought our first Volvo wagon [...]

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Advice Wanted: How to manage too much “personal” use of family car

by cv harquail March 25, 2009

I need advice about car usage for our au pair. Our au pair has been with us for a little over 7 weeks now. She is doing a great job and has really blended well with our family. Part of her duties (driving) are to drop-off/pick-up our children from school 3 days a week & [...]

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Using Your Car is a Privilege, not an Entitlement: Best practices

by cv harquail March 24, 2009

Second only to food as a ‘terrain of struggle’ is the shared family car. While the luckiest of us host families has an extra clunker or not-so-clunker available for the au pair to use as her own, many more host families have their au pair share the family car. And, some host families do [...]

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Advice Wanted: Au Pair changed her vacation… now what?

by cv harquail March 10, 2009

Moms-
Big conversation going on today about Mary’s au pair…. Here’s the conversation so far…. Join in!
Our au pair has been with us for 8 months. She transitioned from another family and has not been the greatest. She does the bare minimum and has left the children unsupervised. She doesn’t make good decisions and is very [...]

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