Awesome Contributor and Host Mom Dorsi asks:
“If you were to revisit the applications of your best and worst Au Pairs, what would you learn about making a good choice?”, Dorsi asks.
The Oh-So-Wise ShouldBeWorking replies:
“What kills me about how fabulous our current match is is that there was NOTHING remarkable about her profile. She looked “ok”. No especially outstanding experience with children. She’s a scientist.
We basically only took her because she was a local AP in transition. Her previous HF said she was “fine, but not outstanding” and for 6 months it seemed like a good-enough solution.
So now she’s fabulous! Yet— there is nothing I could have foreseen about this!! So how can I know anything about anyone?
The title of the book I should write: “Existential issues in the AP program.”
“I’ve been doing this, reviewing applications to see what I missed or gleaned or could learn from. It’s hard.
Grumpiness would not have been visible on one grumpy AP’s application, although in Skyping we had a little tension at one point. But who knew? A great AP had a great profile, so that was easy and accurate. Our current great AP has an unremarkable profile.
I feel more uncertain now about my own sense of judgment than I did 3 APs ago!
Now I wonder if when I see “big smiley friendly” if it hides “needy unrealistic immature”; or when I see “aloof dull” it hides “unflappable calm”.
Tea leaves, I tell you!!