Loyal Reader and Commenter Maya has had it — and who can blame her.
Her au pair becomes a drama queen (my words) when given feedback, then
doesn’t change the behavior.
When I was reading this comment this morning, it brought back a wave of nausea, as I remembered our meeting with TL (worst au pair we ever had, with us 4 weeks) who told me "I’m not gping to learn your ways of talking to the kids. That’s not my personality." Yeah, her personality was to yell at them, call them brats, and then sit there sullenly waiting for them to drive themselves to day camp. She was a winner…. but I digress.
When you offer advice to Maya, focus on the au pair interaction. (We’ll get back to food issues.)
OK, I have a rant here. How the heck do you deal with a 25-year-old
au pair who gets hysterical when you are trying to have a meeting with
her to tell her that she has been feeding your children crap contrarily
to your specific instruction and two prior discussions on this topic?
And when I say hysterical, I mean, red in the face, heaving, wheezing,
tears rolling down the face, cannot talk because cannot take a full
breath, hysterical. Basically, picture a 3 year old who has just been
told that he cannot have another cookie. Oh, and this is the third
display of hysterics that my husband and I have had to deal with since
And here is the kicker: after she agrees that yes, she should follow
our instruction, and yes, it is not right to through food away because
she was not feeding kids the right food that I have prepared, and yes,
she will fix it, she tells us that she is not comfortable here with us,
but would not tell us why. She said she will think about it and send us
an email tomorrow telling us why she is not comfortable. Sheesh!
I am sad to suggest it, but this one sounds like a rematch candidate… but perhaps you host moms can help save it?