I was compelled to run down the driveway and get a cuddle from that darn dog. It was only when I scooped the dog into my arms that I realized:
I was still in my pajamas.
Have I no sense of modesty? Of propriety?
I think of this as the ‘Work From Home Mom’s Walk of Shame”. That stretch from the car to the front door, where anyone can see I’m in my owl & unicorn drawstring pants from Target. What else can I do, when she needs to be at practice at 6:30 AM!
In truth, although I’m a little embarrassed, it’s no longer a tragedy for me to be seen in my pajamas by an adult other than a family member. That’s what having Au Pairs will do for you.
Not everyone feels the same way. I know moms that won’t pull into the car line without full makeup. We all have different standards for what’s “too naked”.
And there lies a subtle question of Au Pair- Host Parent fit: What’s modest enough?
As this mom describes is:
Culturally and through my family experience “modesty” hasn’t been a subject of concern for me or our family. Apparently, the German thinking is different than the rest of the world. Who knew :-).
So to my question…my personal preference is to find an au pair that is more similar to my way of thinking. I’d like an Au Pair who feels comfortable with our family’s level of occasional nakedness.
I certainly would not ever think of us as nudist by any means. But a little bit of undressed-ness also never bothered any of us (we have two kids boy/girl and Host Dad was raised similar in culture).
We’ve been to camping sites where clothing was optional, to some family ‘nude’ beaches here in the States. At home we occasionally have some nakedness from getting in and out of the shower (one after another), with changing clothes, swimming in lakes, etc.
After getting online I see that this comfort with a little nakedness is not really standard for all families. (Honestly, this seems just as strange to me (but I get it, we are all different)).
Bringing an au pair in the equation means we might have to rethink our behavior, but I don’t want to change our own family’s comfort level too much.
What cultures differences have other host families experienced regarding this?
I know we need to be more aware of this subject, so please share your thoughts without judgement, au pairs and moms alike. Thanks!
Image: Adam Klemann on Flickr