Her au pair sat down in the kitchen, sipped her Diet Coke, and said:
“Of course, don’t take it personally. I’ve really loved being an au pair, but your kids are bratty, your house is a mess, your rules are insane, and you make me work Saturday nights.
So I’m thinking, maybe I’ll look for a host family in California, and extend with them.”
<Okay, the au pair didn’t actually say that– It’s just what the host parent heard.
Each of us wants to think that our family is a great place for an au pair. Especially after 8 months of adjusting to each other, letting little things go, being generous to a fault, and working with compromise, we want to think that we’ll get paid back in loyalty and maybe another 6-12 months of reasonably smooth interaction. That’s not too much to ask, right?
However, assuming that you aren’t secretly harboring the hope that your au pair will leave asap, when you learn that you au pair wants to extend– just not with you —
Is there any way to hear this that doesn’t hurt your feelings?
Karina (letter below), needs to know. She writes:
I’m an AuPair in on the West Coast. I’ve been with my amazing host family for almost 8 months. I’ve been through a lot with them, but I didn’t want to rematch earlier because it didn’t seem fair to them. Their previous aupairs both left before the end of their contracts, and I wanted to hold up my end of things.