Au Pair Mom’s Mothers’ Day Challenge

by cv harquail on May 8, 2010

The annual celebration of Mothers’ Day offers us moms a chance to have breakfast in bed, or experience some other kind of treat from our family.

It’s one particular day that we get a bit of positive feedback for the work that we do as moms, and it’s one day that we get to be reminded of how much love goes around because of moms.

alisonstrine etsy.jpgMothers’ Day can also be a chance to reflect on how we each are doing as moms (or grandmoms) …

— What kind of example are we setting for our kids?
— How are we showing them that we love them?
— How well are we appreciating the gifts that being a parent can give us?

In addition to thinking about our mom-ing towards our children, this day is also a chance to think about the ways we benefit and serve as host moms of au pairs.

As regular readers of the blog know, I firmly believe that being a host mom or dad not only helps you grown as a parent, but it also helps you grow as a person.

For this Mothers’ Day I wanted to post something that I wrote a long time ago about the 5 Ways Being a Host Mom Makes you a Better Parent & Person, and then I thought, Why rehash my ideas? Why not just ask you all?

Here’s a Mothers Day challenge for you:

How has being a host mom helped you become a more inspiring parent?

Although this question is phrased for host moms themselves, au pairs and dads can also chime in. You may notice ways in which we moms are growing that we haven’t noticed ourselves…

This superfabulous image is a charm, from the Etsy shop of Allison Strine. Lots of goodies and inspirations there…


StephinBoston May 9, 2010 at 7:26 pm

wow not busy here today, I hope it’s because everyone is having a wonderful mother’s day.

I do believe being a host mom (and my dh a host dad) has made us better parents. Some of the things I’ve noticed:

-We are more patient with the kids, who wants to look like a lunatic hollering at your kids when there’s someone else around lol
-We learn what’s it like to live with young adults, great prep for when our kids get to that age.
-We learn to take things with a grain of salt, sometimes “stuff” happens, even with all the great au pairs we’ve had.
-And I’ve said this before, I love having another woman in the house in my house full of boys, it’s really nice and I truly appreciate it.

I tell anyone who asks me about my au pair experience that it’s been wonderful for all of us, kids included. No it’s not perfect, no one is but it beats the heck out of anything else I’ve tried and in the process, I’ve met some wonderful ladies who will always be part of me. That’s priceless…

cv May 10, 2010 at 6:22 am

Hi Steph –
You’re right!Everyone must have been too busy with their days — yesterday saw the lowest traffic to the blog in over 14 months! Why didn’t it occur to me that few of us would spend much time online … even you were on late in the day. Maybe folks will still add ideas during the week, let’s hope. That so much for your contribution- cv

FormerSwissAupair May 10, 2010 at 10:37 am

I am not a HM, but when I do have children I will definitely have an AP. The reasons I would hire one over a nanny would be the flexiblity, it’s cheaper, and the cultural/language exchange. Having been an AP, I was so impressed that the high level of fluency in two or more languages of the children that I took care of. I would love to have a Spanish or German speaking AP since I speak both languages, but not as well as a native speaker would. Also, knowing that I could schedule my AP for weekends and evenings would be awesome! As a nanny, I know the high cost of employing a nanny. lol. And I really do not want to put my kids in daycare. Anyways, that’s just my expectations of having an AP. Of course, since I’ve never had one, I might be a bit naive. lol.

FormerSwissAupair May 10, 2010 at 10:38 am

Oops. I’m so sorry. I just realized I posted this in the wrong place!! CV, feel free to delete it. I am going to copy and post it to the correct location!!

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