Comments on: Visitors and Guests http://AuPairMom.com Helping Host Parents and Au Pairs build great relationships. Mon, 21 May 2012 14:25:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Juanita Rogers http://AuPairMom.com/au-pair-guidelines/visitors-and-guests/comment-page-1/#comment-933 Juanita Rogers Tue, 24 Feb 2009 23:44:33 +0000 http://aupairmom.com//visitors-and-guests/#comment-933 I would also add something about when your (AuPair Mom)'s friends come over. Sometimes if you have quite an outgoing Au Pair, they will assume you don't mind them hanging around while you are entertaining, having lunch with your best friend etc. My guideline for this is firstly see what the Au Pair is like (very sociable or hides in their room) then tackle the issue appropriately. If very sociable, and she is attending every social occasion you arrange for yourself at home, gently let her know that occasionally you will invite her to socialize with your friends but that it may not always be convenient. If you have a hider, then encourage them to come out even if for 5 or 10 minutes, so that her language and social skills can be improved, and so that she doesn't end up feeling miserable and home sick because she is seeing no one but you and the kids. Then have the "two week chat" - at the end of the first two or three weeks it is always good to have a review session and this is a good time to tackle these issues. I am writing from the UK, but our issues are the same and your site has been really helpful to me, despite my oldest child now being 20, and me being an experienced Au Pair Mom. Do any of you ever have male au pairs, as I would be glad to tell of my (mostly good) experiences as a Mom of 4 boys with male Au Pairs. I would also add something about when your (AuPair Mom)’s friends come over. Sometimes if you have quite an outgoing Au Pair, they will assume you don’t mind them hanging around while you are entertaining, having lunch with your best friend etc. My guideline for this is firstly see what the Au Pair is like (very sociable or hides in their room) then tackle the issue appropriately. If very sociable, and she is attending every social occasion you arrange for yourself at home, gently let her know that occasionally you will invite her to socialize with your friends but that it may not always be convenient. If you have a hider, then encourage them to come out even if for 5 or 10 minutes, so that her language and social skills can be improved, and so that she doesn’t end up feeling miserable and home sick because she is seeing no one but you and the kids. Then have the “two week chat” – at the end of the first two or three weeks it is always good to have a review session and this is a good time to tackle these issues.

I am writing from the UK, but our issues are the same and your site has been really helpful to me, despite my oldest child now being 20, and me being an experienced Au Pair Mom. Do any of you ever have male au pairs, as I would be glad to tell of my (mostly good) experiences as a Mom of 4 boys with male Au Pairs.

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