A PopularAuPair candidate faces an embarrassment of riches.
Lots and lots of families are contacting her via the website where she’s posted her application. She’s got many to choose from as she accepts or declines invitations for interviews. But she’s not 100% sure of the criteria she should use.
Several of these families I’m emailing with seem really lovely.
I have about 10 families that I’m currently in the active phase of talking to. I think I can narrow it down to 5 that I wish to seriously continue getting to know. But I worry that I’m being misleading! It’s like dating many people at once!
How do you recommend that an au pair decide among several good options?
Should I feel okay just “going with my gut”?
But at the end of the day, I think I might have found the family that feels ‘right’.
They weren’t the first family I was messaging with — I’d already interacted with several families before connecting with them. They actually contacted me — I remember passing over their profile initially because it was structured in such a way that made it sound like they needed a housekeeper to help while they had a new baby. But I went ahead and skyped them, got a better feel for the situation, and it just feels perfect.
I spoke in English with the mother (who I adored!), held a brief German conversation with a very sweet and devoted father, and even got to see and answer some questions for the children ( 4 and 2). (I also got a more detailed schedule from the mom, and it sounds more like the au pair experience I’m seeking, I believe the initial outline was a language problem).
Do I take the plunge? Is my gut correct?
I want to encourage this au pair to go with the family that feels comfortable to her — with one caveat.
Discuss the contract clearly, and dig into the details to make sure you both agree on the same terms.
In too many of the emails we receive from au pairs outside the USA, the problem is that the international host family has ‘gone back on’ details of the contract– particularly related to housekeeping and hours. I think this PopularAuPair should be very careful to discuss the contract– maybe even tell the family that the AuPairMom blog advised her to do so.
And with regard to your ‘gut’ reaction, I don’t really know another way to choose among several options that all look equally good on paper.