Last month a regular reader/commenter brought to my attention the Facebook page called “AuPair Confessions” .
It’s almost as bad as looking at Pinterest.
It took me a long time to get up the energy to go check it out, because I just didn’t want to see what disgruntled au pairs might ‘confess’ about — plus I already see a lot of that in the emails that come to aupairmom and that– due to my editing– never make it onto the blog page!
Some of the updates are funny stories, and some of them are completely predictable, like this one:
#291 i am happy to announce I hate my host mother. She is a bitch!!
To crown it all she told me the other day she knows I think she is a bitch!
I said, well I do!
There are the predictable (salacious, and I’ll bet not altogether true) ‘naughty host dad’ stories. [Large sigh, and not in a good way.]
But three kinds of posts stand out for me:
The Sad and True Stories
Some of the updates are sad because you just know that there really ARE host families who are breaking the rules, taking advantage of their au pairs, and just not getting the big picture of what a good au pair-host family relationship can bring to everyone involved. Shame on them, and the agencies and counselors who help these families get away with it.
There seem to be some scammers promoting jobs with few hours, high pay and perfect children– a triple combo that we know is impossible to offer.
The “I hope that’s OUR Au Pair”
And then there are the status updates about how wonderful the kids are, how the host parents are flawed but kind, how the au pair has learned so much, and how the year has been a wonderful adventure.
(Which makes me wonder– is that really a ‘confession’? But I digress…)
These are the things that I really hope our au pairs experience.…
and it’s nice to know that some au pairs and some host families are really growing through their relationships.
Going forward, the page organizers have just announced that, due to demonstrated demand, they’ll actually be starting a blog. This could be fun.
I wonder if an au pair blog would be the mirror image of this one… with active, caring participants largely of the ‘target’ group and also including interested parties, with the occasional grump, axe-grinder or crazy to mix things up a bit. What do you think?
Has anyone else spent time checking out AuPair Confessions? If you have, what do you think– did anything surprise you? ??