Dear Au Pair Mom,
I really love to read your blog, and have been reading it for a few months now, back when I started on my quest to become an Au Pair. And now for the first time I’m writing to you for advice.
I have just moved to my host family and have been here for 2 weeks, and I love everything here so far, my host parents are amazing and so generous and have done everything they can to make me feel at home and welcome. The two kids and 2 and a half and a four year old boys. That’s where my problem lies.
I feel like I have placed my self in a situation I didn’t realize I wasn’t prepared for.
The boys are really great but they are so hard to handle and take care of as they never listen, they don’t take discipline seriously and continuously fight with each other. I also find that they are spoilt and have a really bad attitude.
The way I handle them is so different to the parents, who are so patient with them. I don’t have any patience with them when they throw a tantrum. That is how I was raised, and many other kids I have cared for have been bought up the same way.
As they are younger, they are only in school two mornings a week so I practically have them full time.
I feel like I have over estimated myself with what I can manage as I haven’t had hardly any experience with children this age and my host parents knew that from my application. I now find myself in the position where I am wishing I had older children.
I am undecided on how to approach this because I love everything here — except taking care of the kids, which is the reason why I am here.
I don’t want to risk a rematch (and I know it’s too early for that anyway) because I’m scared I won’t find a family as great as the one I already have and I have already made some great friends in this town, but I find myself close to tears a lot of the time because I struggle so much with the kids and I am really homesick.
So I was hoping you had some advice for me, and what I can do to make this situation better, because sometimes I feel that I might be staying here for the wrong reasons and maybe this is not what I should be doing..
Thanks again, New Au Pair
Image: Must Change Attitude by Mary Englebrecht. But the question is— how?