So I just found out that my only grandfather is very, very ill. He is almost 100 and has had declining health for a while, but apparently the past 5 days it has gotten much much worse. I am my mother’s only child, and she and her sister do not talk.
Would it be okay for me to go home to be with my mother? I’m not sure what the protocol for this thing is…
Talk about this with your host family & LCC right away.
Most host parents will do their best to make it possible for you to go home for an emergency, but remember that there are several concerns that you have to consider.
- The biggest issue is that your host parents will need a firm commitment from you that you will, in fact, return.
- Your host parents will need a firm date by which you will return. You may find that your grandfather recovers, or that you want to stay longer if he passes away after several days and you want to attend the funeral.
- Your host parents will need time to find alternative childcare. This may be difficult for them to do quickly OR for more than a few days. And, it can be really expensive.
I’ve seen it go both ways — sometimes an au pair leaves for a funeral or wedding and then comes back, happy to finish her year. Other times the au pair just disappears, leaving an angry and upset host family in the lurch. I’ve also heard stories of host parents being asked to ship their departed au pair’s things to her, and also being asked to just give them away.
Consider that, if there is any chance that you might not come back if you go home, you might just want to jointly agree to terminate your contract and let your host parents find another family.
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