When it comes to host parents asking for a rematch, there are many grey areas. Whose fault was the problem? Did the parties try hard enough to fix things? Is the issue worth rematching over?
We can debate these questions in almost every case. Except one– when an au pair violates a safety rule.
If an au pair does something that is blatantly unsafe, it’s time to give him or her the ‘heave ho’.
No question about that.
— Does that au pair get ‘kicked out of the program’ and sent back?
— Or, do Agencies actually put them up for rematch with another– unsuspecting– host family?
APM reader AppalledHostMom would love to know. She’s come across a situation that’s scared her:
My Au Pair told me about a situation with another Au Pair (from a different Au Pair Agency) that’s concerning me. This au pair has been here for four months, and recently went home for Christmas for a week. During her vacation, the host family found a blog that their Au Pair put on her YouTube channel, where she recorded herself on video for 45 minutes while *driving in the car *with the 20 month old baby in the car seat.
She starts the blog off by saying “sorry I can’t look at the camera, but I am driving.” At one point in the video she shushes the baby for asking for a snack.
The parents confronted her about this unsafe behavior, but the Au Pair doesn’t think she did anything wrong. Initially, she lied and said that she wasn’t driving (even though the scenery was flying by out the window). Then she recanted and said that she didn’t do anything to put the baby in danger. Except film herself while she was driving. With her host baby in the car. The video is still on youtube and the agency saw it.
Understandably, the Host Family has asked their agency for an immediate ‘rematch’ so that they can get a new au pair with better safety sense.
But here’s the kicker– it seems that the unsafe Au Pair is going back into her Agency’s rematch pool to be offered to another family.
Is this normal?
I am appalled that her agency wouldn’t instantly kick her out of the program altogether. I guess I naively thought that a safety violation such as this would be immediate grounds for kicking her out.
I would love to see what others have experienced, and what people know about how Agencies decide whether or not an au pair should be kicked out of the program.
We’d especially love to hear from Local Community Counselors and Agency reps who can share their Agency’s ‘official’ policies on this.