Dear AuPairMom –
I have been reading AuPairMom while I was deciding to become an au pair and I was expecting that what you have on this blog explains what an au pair should expect.
My family is a good family. They are kind, their house is nice, the kids are great, and this feels like a very good situation to me. I have been here with the family for two months now, and I am noticing that my host mom struggles with some of the things that you talk about on the blog all the time. Actually I think I know more about having an au pair than my host mom and dad. Maybe I don’t know everything but I know I have thought about a lot of things.
Especially, she seems to have trouble with organizing my schedule. Sometimes my host mom doesn’t give me a plan in advance, then other times she does. Some weeks she gives me lots of time between events and other weeks I am scheduled down to the minute it feels like.
Also she has given me a few “pointers” about how she’d like things done. I got a few lists for putting the lunches together and doing the laundry. But nothing that is complete like the Handbooks that you have on AuPairMom.
I have been trying to be my very best Au Pair by following what you say on the blog. When I read the post about What Kind Of Host Mom Are You it made me think my host mom might be helped by reading it.
I think my Host Mom (and dad) do want to do a good job. Do you think it would be okay if I told them about AuPairMom and asked them to read it? I don’t want to be a knows-it-all and feel like I should be telling them what to do or how to do things. But also it might help?
Would this be rude?
Is there a way to help them be better or more organized by asking them to look at some of the pages here?
Thank you for your ideas. ~ Very Informed AuPair
Dear VeryInformed AuPair-
Of course I would love it if you asked your Host Mom and Dad to read AuPairMom– after all, that’s why we’re here!
I understand, though, that asking your host parents to look at the blog might feel awkward. It’s hard to imagine a way to recommend the blog to them without potentially triggering for them a question of whether you think that they are somehow inadequate as host parents.
I’ve always hoped that host parents who knew about AuPairMom would tell other families in their cluster. I’ve also hoped that LCCs and ADs would tell their families too– somehow it’s easier to imagine another host parent telling you about a resource than to have your au pair suggest it to you.
Au Pairs, have you ever recommended a specific post to your Host Parents?
Has that worked well?
Have you found a way to share resources with your host family in a way that avoids you looking like a smarty pants?
Host parents, how would you feel if your AuPair recommended a blog to you?
Is there a way it could be done nicely?
(P.s. This is an actual email from a real au pair, not an indirect request that you share the blog with your host families, friends, etc. Just letting you know that because otherwise this feels weird. ~ cvh)