Our current au pair, who is nothing spectacular but fine is trying desperately to marry an American. She’s online constantly trying to arrange a marriage for herself. This week, she told me she’d “met someone” online who is offering to marry her, pay for her schooling, buy her a car and a home, but he wants to meet her first, next weekend in NYC. I told her I was terrified for her, that this sounds like an extremely dangerous situation potentially, and she promised not to go. However, I’ve since learned that she planning to go the weekend after next.
Never mind that I feel her judgment is lacking, I’m extremely concerned for her personal safety and have this idea that she’ll go and no one will ever see her again. I would greatly appreciate some guidance. I am concerned that if I get the “company/my LCC” involved, I will lose my au pair’s trust. –CK
From Calif Mom:
I may sound harsh, but you have to get the LCC involved. If your AP were to disappear, you would not be able to forgive yourself.
If she does get married to some creepy figure, is she going to stick around and be your AP still? More to the point — would you really want her to?!
You may lose your AP’s trust, but she is clearly not focused on making good decisions, and you can no longer count on her to take care of your kids wisely.
You need to see this as the beginning of the end with her as your AP.
Go to your LCC as fast as you run. This AP is going to leave you. Hopefully she won’t introduce this person to your children or steal from you.
Beware– It seems very clear that her first priority is not being an AP and taking care of your children. She signed up so she could get a ticket here and get a husband.
Yes, you need to call LCC right away and start lining up your back-up childcare.
Even if it takes her awhile, she’s going to disappear one way or another. You don’t want her in your house! You need a new AP.